Here's what I know.
1. MAKE SURE YOUR CRANKSHAFT IS DRILLED FOR THE PILOT BUSHING/BEARING
2. If your engine is internally balanced, then you need a balanced flywheel (no weights, etc.) which makes things easier for you.
3. You're correct, 11" clutch surface will hold better than a 10-1/2" surface. It used to be that your 11" high performance clutch options were limited, but I don't think that's true anymore.
4. There's "something" about a "scalloped" clutch... like it's almost 11" and fits the 10-1/2" clutch bolt pattern (not sure about that)
5. A flywheel that takes BOTH bolt patterns sounds like a good idea to me
6. The "consensus" on this board was to use a standard weight, steel flywheel and not an aluminum one. I asked this question on here before.
7. A Lakewood or Quick Time "scattershield" bellhousing is a good idea in my opinion. At least with Lakewood you can use EITHER flywheel size (not sure about QuickTime)
8. I really like my dual friction Centerforce clutch, though some here like the McCleod clutches. Hays clutches are junk now in my opinion (mine lasted 30 miles, they used to be better quality)
On a side note, 4.10's are A LOT of gear for a street car unless you have an overdrive transmission. I do not have overdrive and I'm pulling 4000+ rpm on the highway with 3.91's. Also, a rev limiter might be a good idea too.