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My step son and I got into it today

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amoparlady

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My step son Matt and I got into it today.We do get along,he does things that do get me angry.One is he doesn't clean up messes up and I am on him for it.I come home from work,leaves a mess in my stall in my side of the garage.5 empty oil bottles,drain oil container full of oil and a wrench of mine he borrowed all oily.Changed the oil in his car.16 years old thinking I am his maid cleaning up his mess.I find him in his room playing video games.He got mad at me shutting it off telling him clean his mess in the garage on my side.Told me that was my job and told him it wasn't.Turned into an argument,my husband found out what he did and we got him to clean it up.Even wiped off that wrench off putting it away.Took his video games and not getting them back for 2 weeks.He did come up to apologize to me later on,learned his lesson and forgave him.
 
Spending the amount of time I did with my grandparents taught me a great deal about respecting my elders...no to mention work ethic. At 16 I was living on my own, still in school and a part time job to pay my way.

Different era I suppose.
 
Needs to learn to respect me more.I have another step son Clay Jr. that respects me,he is 18 graduating high school in June.
 
Your right. I would have had my *** beat for that. I leave my shop a mess sometimes but its mine and eventually its clean, but its mine. I already have my 3 year old hanging wrenches, she loves helping me in the shop, but jobs take 10 times longer but it's worth it. He'll eventually realize how lucky he has it, I know it took me a while and a few knocks.
 
Man back when I was younger I had my tools cleaned up and put back ! Now once a week I'll get to it ! Or when the job ends ! When I borrowed something it always came back in better condition then I got it! If I broke something I bought the person a brand new one or a new set and took the old stuff ! You learned to take care of your stuff !
 
Glad your husband took care of it. I have a stepson sometime mama is to easy on him.
 
I was glad to see that he came around and apologized in the end. However, I'm also impressed that he's changing his own oil...not every sixteen year old would care to.
 
Glad to hear it worked out. Tell him we said he did the right thing in the end. I cant imagine telling anyone else that it was their responsibility to clean up after me.
 
I'm also impressed that he's changing his own oil...not every sixteen year old would care

That's exactly what I was thinking!

You did the right thing by standing your ground and punishing him by taking away his games. He will actually respect you for this in the long run and make him a good man later on. I would be proud that he is willing to get out in the garage and actually work. That was just normal when I was his age. Today it's a huge accomplishment and super impressive... isn't that sad?

Some day, all the people who actually know how to fix something or build something, etc will be the ones getting paid big bucks. How many sit down computer jobs can there be when that's what 95% of young people want to do and no one knows how to use their hands to create or repair something (or want to even learn)? Nothing wrong with computer or office jobs and I'm not against them in any way, I just think there needs to be a better balance.

'Nuff said!
 
As mad as it makes you and I get that, he came around and apologized. The most important think is that at the end of the day you forgave him. I know that's not the answer to the problem, but never end the day filled with anger, if something happened to him, that's what you have to live with. Just my opinion.....
 
I would have got my *** beat if I talked to my step mom that way.

That being said, he still sounds more respectful than most of his peers. He apologized & by gones should be by gones.
 
I remember when I was 16 I was the same way.
It was great when you could get away with it, ........or at least till dad got home.

Lol, I think "the" video game back around 16 looked something like this...….
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My step son Matt and I got into it today.We do get along,he does things that do get me angry.One is he doesn't clean up messes up and I am on him for it.I come home from work,leaves a mess in my stall in my side of the garage.5 empty oil bottles,drain oil container full of oil and a wrench of mine he borrowed all oily.Changed the oil in his car.16 years old thinking I am his maid cleaning up his mess.I find him in his room playing video games.He got mad at me shutting it off telling him clean his mess in the garage on my side.Told me that was my job and told him it wasn't.Turned into an argument,my husband found out what he did and we got him to clean it up.Even wiped off that wrench off putting it away.Took his video games and not getting them back for 2 weeks.He did come up to apologize to me later on,learned his lesson and forgave him.

I understand ho difficult it can be for you
So sorry you are dealing with this.
Validation from me?
Certainly,
Simply put, Kids today are spoiled...
They can NOT accept the word "NO"
Personally, I would say "No Car until you get on board...."
 
When I was 16, in 1973, I would have gotten my little *** whipped for that. And deserved it.
 
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