For some of you this fathers day

steve from staten island · Jun 14, 2019

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I think it takes a real stand up guy to help raise another mans children.
I was never in that situation and the closest I came was becoming a father figure to a younger cousin.
Her parents and step father were not involved in her life and thats all I will say.
She became like my own and I had the honor of giving her away on her wedding day.
This however is not about me, its about some of you who married a lady(or live with) who has children and maybe the children fathers was not in the picture for whatever reason.

You stepped up and did a honorable thing and this link is for you.
Happy fathers Day!!!!!!

BTW this goes for those raising their grandkids also.

YY1 · Jun 14, 2019

My wife's son was 9 when I met him.

His "real" father used him for any way to try to inconvenience his mother, as well as trying to fill him with fabrications of what she supposedly did and did not do.

He was a smart boy and his mother and I gave him credit to figure out what was really going on.

He is now 28 and married with a house and a good job in IT (that's what I do).

Yesterday I got an email from him inviting me to Father's day at one of our favorite BBQ joints.

My wife asked him what he was doing with "the other guy" and he said he had no plans.

68Moparmaniac · Jun 14, 2019

My wife's son was 17 when I came into the picture.
My story echo's YY1.
It was hard a road to travel since the boy was practically a man already and was totally clueless what to do with his life. Long and short of it I was able to get him into the trade (machinist) and give him some direction. Even though I was able to help mold him to a point, he still has some resentment towards me because I didn't give him the easy way out. I made sure he appreciated the value of a honest days work.
Raising another deadbeats offspring has some unique challenges for sure. Your kinda in no mans land if that makes sense, but if the woman has your back it makes it less of a PITA...

Darter6 · Jun 14, 2019

I've known a guy since grade school. He has been in and out of jail and is a career criminal for the last 50 years or so.He is on probation as of now. BUT He has raised several kids,not his own and gets them jobs or pays for their schooling. Most didn't even have a roof over their heads.He has been doing this for at least the last 20+ years.The big thing is he teaches them to NOT be like him. To do the best they can and not to try to take the easy way out. I give him credit.

I forgot to say I am a stepfather. My girls were 12 and 17 when I met their mother. Both girls are now in their 30's and I am blessed that they treat me like I was their birth father. I am great full for that.

69BBody · Jun 14, 2019

68Moparmaniac said:
My wife's son was 17 when I came into the picture.
My story echo's YY1.
It was hard a road to travel since the boy was practically a man already and was totally clueless what to do with his life. Long and short of it I was able to get him into the trade (machinist) and give him some direction. Even though I was able to help mold him to a point, he still has some resentment towards me because I didn't give him the easy way out. I made sure he appreciated the value of a honest days work.
Raising another deadbeats offspring has some unique challenges for sure. Your kinda in no mans land if that makes sense, but if the woman has your back it makes it less of a PITA...

At some point he will appreciate your efforts and thank you for being a true father.

Moparfiend · Jun 14, 2019

I had two daughters and in one day I had 5 daughters! Now I have 3 granddaughters and one grandson! Finally a boy in the family!

Happy fathers day all you turkeys out there!

NJRR · Jun 14, 2019

My oldest brother ( 15 years older than me) and I have different biological fathers. My father married our mother when he was 4 and adopted him. I didn't find out till I was 18 that he was my "half" brother. My father didn't treat him any differently than me or my other brother and sister. Ironically, my half-brother and I are the most alike. He's a car guy too!!!!

bearman · Jun 14, 2019

Thank you all for being great dad's.

BeeKool · Jun 14, 2019

If youre the provider and the moral compass, youre the dad. Regardless of DNA

I will say though, for every lowlife who abandons their kids, theres somebody on the opposite side.
A dad who loves his children but gets shafted by a system that unfairly caters to the mother even if shes clearly not the better parent.

For some of you this fathers day

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