How many have close-trusted friends who are bull shitters and braggers? I had a close childhood buddy, we were like brothers until we reached our mid-20’s or so. I tolerated his growing bragg-ado for some time kidding around with him about it; but it became worse evolving into a lopsided friendship as I helped him out of scraps a number of times while when I needed it he usually had some lame excuse. He loved cars, but never worked on them beyond changing the oil and cleaning them. One time he came over with a problem and I fixed it for him. All he did was hand me the tools I needed while I was under the car. Bit later chatting with his girlfriend, she tells me how he fixed his car. I asked, gee did anyone give him a hand on it? She said nope, did it himself. Later he went through an ugly divorce and break up of a business startup. Like an idiot, I trusted the bullshit/lies he fed me about all of this while asking for my help. Since I had a pickup, we moved several loads of supplies and heavy-*** equipment to a storage shed then posted the **** on eBay for him selling it off over some months. He said that stuff was his. Ahh, it wasn’t, he was da 2nd fiddle in the biz and luckily that cash did reach his partner before a lawsuit. His partner also owned the condo he was living in that he said was his.
I’ll spare the gritty divorce crap.
Along the way he got into loving foreign cars telling me all American cars are crap spewing this like some lofty expert on this. His views were always best as a wannabe rich guy. One time he agreed to come over to help while I was building my deck. He sat in a lawn chair much of the time and my father-in-law asked me (doing a lot of work at his advanced age my bud could a been doing) “Is he here to help or occupy that chair”? I was pissed. Our long friendship had a short ending. I knew two other guys with similar traits, one had been pretty close for a some years talking me into going to work with his company until he was promoted to president being a pinpoint *** kisser. He made my life (and a few others he had been close to) miserable until I got an agreement to get out with a great severance deal. His antics to try to fire me didn’t work well since I had a glowing record and had proof to counter his lies about me he was trying to use. Close work friend who endured the same put it in some perspective. He said “I think he viewed us as a threat knowing what a dumbass he could be and took credit for things that weren’t his doing”. It sure made sense to me as he did just this.
These sorts of people have common threads, all centered on self, and I found (as I think I described above) great reasons despise them. If anyone can maintain a friendship with these sorts kudo’s to ya.
I’ll spare the gritty divorce crap.
Along the way he got into loving foreign cars telling me all American cars are crap spewing this like some lofty expert on this. His views were always best as a wannabe rich guy. One time he agreed to come over to help while I was building my deck. He sat in a lawn chair much of the time and my father-in-law asked me (doing a lot of work at his advanced age my bud could a been doing) “Is he here to help or occupy that chair”? I was pissed. Our long friendship had a short ending. I knew two other guys with similar traits, one had been pretty close for a some years talking me into going to work with his company until he was promoted to president being a pinpoint *** kisser. He made my life (and a few others he had been close to) miserable until I got an agreement to get out with a great severance deal. His antics to try to fire me didn’t work well since I had a glowing record and had proof to counter his lies about me he was trying to use. Close work friend who endured the same put it in some perspective. He said “I think he viewed us as a threat knowing what a dumbass he could be and took credit for things that weren’t his doing”. It sure made sense to me as he did just this.
These sorts of people have common threads, all centered on self, and I found (as I think I described above) great reasons despise them. If anyone can maintain a friendship with these sorts kudo’s to ya.
