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I didnt mean to knock you but I had reasons which I won't go into.
Im also not knocking your ex either but the word love in relationships have different meanings to different people
If you've done the right thing in life and are a good person which I assume you are than my opinion for what its worth is this.
You deserve to be happy and have somebody next to you that will always stand by you and be there for you not just in good times but all the time
Go have a great time on vacation . Best of luck
no Steve. I appreciate it. No offense taken
 
Who's to say if you took her once there she would find another guy and hang out with him for the entire time and then meet you back at the airport forbthe return flight?
I love the idea of meeting her at the airport but not giving her a ticket.
Let her make a big scene and get arrested.
Parting is such sweet sorrow.
Just hope she doesnt go to your house and mess it up.
 
Just move on.

If you can find someone else to go with, great.

...but I agree. Save yourself the anguish of being in prolonged, close contact with someone you have mixed emotions about and do not reward her for breaking up with you.
 
Take her to the Island and right after landing.....say "I have to go to the rest room" then duck out, cancel her ticket and disappear. :D
 
thanks for all of the replies guys, especially the more serious ones.
We are 27 years apart and yes, deep down, I knew the day was coming at some point.
My brother lives outside of Kona. We have 2, 2 tank dives booked, and a long day of sailing around the big island booked.
He has a Harley that I've borrowed several times in the past. I'm sure I will take a day or two and ride by myself.
I'm sure that trip alone will allow me the clarity to create the vision to move forward.
I own restaurants, it would be easy to crawl into my work and rebuild what Covid has taken. That is my nature. But that is also what helped ruin a long marriage and strained several other relationships.
Friends and family have not been as blunt. But I'm sure that they don't want to say what's on their minds, and are trying to be sensitive for me....for now. Perhaps that's why I came here.
Pathetic, probably.
helpful, yes.
I uninvited her this morning, and removed her from all of my social media and phone
thanks
Cheers
I'll share a very unpleasant experience that closely aligns to yours but at a much younger age. I was 20 at the time and was dating a girl a few years younger, it was everything you could want it to be.. she was hot, we got along great, did everything together and eventually got engaged. 2 years passed before the first warning signs came, signs I wasn't picking up on at the time and regret to this day. Things were already bumpy when we took a vacation to New Orleans to visit her family, a trip that ended up being an emotional roller coaster from hell. Things only got worse, she "wanted to live out her youth" that she missed out on helping raise her siblings so the partying started.. when confronted about it I got "well we're not really together"??? That was it, I took everything including her/my truck and kicked her *** out and never looked back. She later tried to patch things up but was already stripping at a bar, umm hell no! Never would I ever imagined she'd stoop to that level. She made my life a living hell, don't allow that to happen to you.. cut it off and get the hell out! Next women you meet, trust your gut and don't dismiss the signs.

A year later I met the greatest women on earth, 20 years and 4 kids later I often thank God for opening my eyes and giving her the boot. I still look back and question my blind ignorance and wish I could take back that last year of hell with her.
 
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@ord27 : Yes rebuild your business, got to make a living, BUT DO NOT BURN YOURSELF OUT MAN!!!! Ya need "ord27" time to relax, chill, be "whole". Social media, ok good for expanding you busines, but THINK real hard if its needed for YOU. I set up a fb acct to sell 72 chrgr parts, once I saw it latched my phonebook & contacts, DUMPED IT!! Hve not had, do not have social media, my family not happy, but I AM, no bs to put up with: ex-gfs were wiped clean from phone & pictures immediately. Even dating sites are a PIA: But use "TRUMP" & be amazed how fast hey run (especially here in JEERRRZZZEEE! :D) Think about it, do whats best FOR "ORD27" and LIVE YOUR LIFE!! BEST TO YA BROTHER!!!! ENJOY "YOUR VACA"!!!
 
Sounds like a gold digging cunt. Move on. You enjoyed that baby soft **** ! now , find you a fat young chick she'll work hard to keep you her man!
 
Sounds like a gold digging cunt. Move on. You enjoyed that baby soft **** ! now , find you a fat young chick she'll work hard to keep you her man!

Another advantage of a fat little hottie is that you don't need to work so hard. Just slap her *** and ride the waves! Sorry couldn't resist.
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First of all sorry to hear that.
I have been told I give good advice even if I can’t follow my own.
I agree with the group, don’t take her. She doesn’t deserve it and you need to start the process to move on.
It’s a no brained to still go, you get to visit your brother and enjoy Hawaii.
When is this trip? If you have enough time to find a woman to go with. Or I’d certainly take a good female friend with you if possible.
Good luck and keep us posted
 
I can't believe the initial question had to be asked.
I think the answer is simple. :hifu:
 
I hope you don't take this the wrong way

Love is trust & respect, that's no longer there
no matter what she said now

Don't take the ex
take a friend or someone else, almost anyone else

lots of fish in the sea, Hawaii has a lot too
maybe meet someone there

when one door shuts another one opens

if it was meant to be, she'd never broke if off
don't get played, don't allow yourself to get played one last time

get on with life, enjoy it
better to find out now than later

And have a great vacation, in the islands
you don't take sand to the beach :poke:
 
The saying “never let them see you sweat” applies IMO. My 1st lesson was with my 1st gal, as I described earlier. Never was quite the same after that giving the whole works unconditionally. In retrospect I recounted the signals as she tried to play me with her old boyfriend. Had a friend who always seemed to make the wrong choices with women. And ever looking for my advice and friggin never took it. All whining and heartsick, making a fool of himself. He would thrust himself on his women, yeah get the keys to her place, take his clothes there. I’d say, stop bro, give her key back, take your belongings out of her place, and play it soft. Don’t be a puppy dog. If she might have interest maintaining a relationship, let her make the move. If no, your signal to move on. Longer story as he married one skank bitch who took him for a ride financially and he let her do it while I was pleading with him to cancel the cards and make sure you pay the mortgage! Nope, his house went into foreclosure and his credit rating toasted. Made me more pissed he even asked doing jack.

And revenge tactics to try to show the babe what a great time you’re having much as this sounds great? Hell, IMO worst thing one could do, unless there’s some bad **** involved other than her wanting to break it off. It only shows that one is pining…she wins.
 
There must be a combined 1000 years of experience here telling you to walk away. I would bet that would be the best option.
 
Life is a joy EVERY day when you find the right woman. They don't alway fall in your lap, and sometimes you make some mistakes. Some just settle for NOT the right one too. Just fact.
 
thanks for all of the replies guys, especially the more serious ones.
We are 27 years apart and yes, deep down, I knew the day was coming at some point.
My brother lives outside of Kona. We have 2, 2 tank dives booked, and a long day of sailing around the big island booked.
He has a Harley that I've borrowed several times in the past. I'm sure I will take a day or two and ride by myself.
I'm sure that trip alone will allow me the clarity to create the vision to move forward.
I own restaurants, it would be easy to crawl into my work and rebuild what Covid has taken. That is my nature. But that is also what helped ruin a long marriage and strained several other relationships.
Friends and family have not been as blunt. But I'm sure that they don't want to say what's on their minds, and are trying to be sensitive for me....for now. Perhaps that's why I came here.
Pathetic, probably.
helpful, yes.
I uninvited her this morning, and removed her from all of my social media and phone
thanks
Cheers
Good to hear. I always say, think with your head. The one on your neck, not the one on your penis.
 
Just be the better man, clear your cookies and move on. No need to be vindictive, you should always hold your head up high, it’s the only way to be able to put yourself first. If you see her again, you can be polite knowing that you did things reasonably, and without lowering yourself to a place that you don’t belong. By reading your description, you sort of knew this might happen, accept the fact that you were right, and go out and find that keeper. Have a great time in Hawaii, you deserve it!
 
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