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    I been there three times now. I can relate...although I just good old fashioned bleed
    out and croak, results of cancers and ulcers and all that shit.

    Traumatic head injury is a whole 'nother critter, though.
    My best friend when we were 19 was thrown from a convertible MG one night and
    went down a similar path as you. Kids, out on a Friday night doing stupid kid things
    and went airborne on a country road, that's all....
    I wasn't there that night, called away for something else. Otherwise, I would have
    been.
    He spent months in a coma. His parents, the best sort of people, had their lives
    wrecked....and I spent all my free time each day in the hospital room with him,
    giving them a break to go eat or some such.
    I talked to him all the time, brought in things to try to get him to wake up like
    his musical instruments (he was an amazingly gifted musician), just anything -
    knowing he probably wasn't hearing me.
    Didn't matter. Had to try.

    When he did finally start to come out of it months later, it was a surprise to the
    staff. It took several days for him to get back enough to start to function and it
    was excruciating to witness, but it had to be done.
    We had witnessed a miracle!

    Unfortunately, he also was not who he was before the wreck - at all.
    A formerly very happy, intelligent gifted young man was gone, replaced with one
    who had a lot of anger issues and was disrespectful to about anyone.
    I took it and stayed supportive long as I could, speaking up only when he'd
    give his parents hell - I was uniquely in the position to interject there, as I'd
    known the family a long time and they trusted me.

    After a while, it was his parents that basically ordered me to stop coming - not
    because of anything to do with what was going on with Rick, but because they'd
    seen how it had destroyed my own well-being over time and, as surrogate parents
    of a sort, they knew it was in my own best interests to go.
    It absolutely broke my heart....but they were right.
    But you know the only part of the whole thing that actually pissed me off?
    His other "friends" - the ones in the car with him that night, including the driver -
    never came to see him once in the hospital.
    Not one damn time...
    Yeah, that sort of thing early in life will open your damn eyes in a hurry.
    I still pray for that family to this day and I've tried to find him for years since, to
    no avail.

    God love ya man, you've been down a hell of a rough road and survived it!
    Glad you're still here with us, my friend.
    :thumbsup:
     
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      moparedtn Ed on the Ridge FBBO Gold Member

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      It's both. :thumbsup:
       
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        Hey Wade , glad to have you on my Team and I know the Coach is glad to have you as well, fear not , while we were yet Sinners Christ died for us!
         
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          Mary is Hot.
           
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            I would have thought her seeing eye dog would have told her about Kern, though.
             
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                My best childhood friend had a distinctly different outcome from a clinically dead experience.

                I've known him since we were both 2 years old, the next door neighbor to my grandmother, in an increasingly rough neighborhood.

                He was the kind of person who always had a friend's back and didn't take shit from anyone.

                When we were 19, and I was getting ready to move to FL, someone that he had rubbed the wrong way, ran him down with a pickup truck in an alley.

                I got to see him twice in the hospital before I left. The first time he was in a coma.

                The second time he was pronounced "healed", but his personality was completely changed.

                There was no hint of hostility, negativity, or even his famous machismo.

                None.

                Completely gone.

                I've only been back to that neighborhood (and state) twice since my uncle died.

                My friend was still there but has no drive to do anything and no desire to do anything at all confrontational.

                He still can talk about the past and remembers everything we did, but often glosses over anything "aggressive".
                 
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                    looks like Mary is thinking, “Aw, got me a sugar daddy”.
                     
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                    They say that people in their last days and hours in life go back in time
                     
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                    True.
                    Kinda like building a car....you might spend years chasing parts, learning new skills, meeting new people....then one day it's done. Yeah you finally get to drive and enjoy, but for me getting there is almost more rewarding.
                     
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                      There are many things I think about from back in the day, as far as changing anything, a few, but, life has no reverse. Even with all my ups and downs, life has been good to me. I've been told hundreds of times that things happen for a reason, all part of the plan, OK. I love my family and I'm very protective of them. Many people have come and gone through out my life and going back to see them I now see why they went left and I went right. We just had different goals and there are many roads to get there, one isn't necessarily better than the other. I do think of my first car, first girl friend, first beer, sunny warm days and all the things that help shape us into the final person we end up being. Mistakes, I've made a few, but like a horse with blinders, it's to keep you from looking back and focus on pulling forward. Most of us have more days behind us than we do ahead of us, , there are no do overs and time waits for no one. Remember, there was only one perfect person in this world and they nailed him to a cross, so Live life to the fullest, right or wrong..........
                       
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                      It’s funny that you say that, as I use that quote all the time when people criticize me, only I add a bit to it.

                      “There was only one perfect person, and they nailed him to a cross and named a religion after him so where’s the incentive to be perfect?”
                       
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