Mother control your child!

[Auggie56]

 

[moparedtn]

Symptomatic of a failing society in which we actually pay people to reproduce....
then pay for their care for life sometimes even.
That which you subsidize, you get more of.
Simple.

 

[Black_Sheep]

The kid shouting “shut the f up” is very telling…

 

[69a100]

I've seen this before; this is what you get when you're not allowed to physically discipline your child!
Dad always made sure to us that, "children should be seen and not heard", otherwise you'd get your azz whooped! This kid will later become a product of the penial system after shooting someone, guaranteed!

 

[WileE]

Don't need to physically punish kids. My kids knew when Dad did his Mount Vesuvius eruption, whatever they did was NOT a good idea. Disciplining children is not isolated, it's continuous.

 

[WileE]

 

[69a100]

Don't need to physically punish kids.

I'll spare you the X, but there are times like with this kid that's allowed to get away with murder that they need a good azz whoopin until they learn to straighten up and fly right and respect their elders!

 

[Big bill]

That is the worst thing you can do is hit kids it does no good I’m not saying you shouldn’t discipline but hitting people should not be allowed regardless, if it’s a big person or a small child or any kid for that matter the same goes for putting soap in kids mouth that is considered child abuse.

 

[66 Sat]

There's a big difference between hitting someone in a way to cause physical harm and smacking a kid on the backside or the hand as a form of discipline.
Punching etc is unacceptable but smacking on the *** with an open hand is fine I reckon.
They need to have some fear of consequences. There's a hierarchy in the world and you need to know when to keep your mouth shut and behave, even as adults.
Don't talk back to the police. Don't talk back to bigger dudes who can kick your ***.
We teach these kids that nobody is allowed to touch them, and then they go out into the real world and get themselves into trouble, because in the real world not everyone follows these same rules and you can get punched, shot etc if you overstep the mark.

 

[davek]

Sorry but I feel you do need to smack that A$$, thats the problem today and thats why our kids are screwed up. JMO

 

[1 Wild R/T]

First Rule... Discipline is not abuse... Though a kid like that might deserve just a little abuse..

Second Rule... The Hodge Twins are funny as hell..

 

[WileE]

I'll spare you the X, but there are times like with this kid that's allowed to get away with murder that they need a good azz whoopin until they learn to straighten up and fly right and respect their elders!

There's a difference between this future felon, and a child reared correctly. I'm not saying an occasional tap on the buttock is wrong, though. I had a friend, as a kid back in Brooklyn, that had strap marks across his back. That's what I call abuse.

 

[Big bill]

Spanking children doesn't help them learn self-control or social skills, and studies consistently show that spanking increases a child's risk of developing behavior problems. This is what the experts say ,so all you guys on here can honestly say you only got one spanking and you learned your lesson.

 

[66 Sat]

Spanking children doesn't help them learn self-control or social skills, and studies consistently show that spanking increases a child's risk of developing behavior problems. This is what the experts say ,so all you guys on here can honestly say you only got one spanking and you learned your lesson.

Not one, but many spankings. Learned eventually.
Those "experts" are why we're in this mess now...

 

[moparedtn]

Spanking children doesn't help them learn self-control or social skills, and studies consistently show that spanking increases a child's risk of developing behavior problems. This is what the experts say ,so all you guys on here can honestly say you only got one spanking and you learned your lesson.

Individual situations - always a case-by-case basis.
That said, the problem lies within the very "studies" you vaguely refer to....
Fact of the matter is that childrens' intellects do not fully the develop the ability to determine
right from wrong (a "conscience") until after their single digit years.
What does develop rather early on in life for humans is the ability to recognize what makes
mommy and/or daddy happy - and conversely, what does not.

In other words, up until such time as that independent conscience develops, kids needs to be
rewarded for good behavior and punished for bad - and that can only be done be demonstrable
enforcement in them of what makes parents pleased with them vs. what does not.
Yes, that's the "because I said so" thing - because that's all they're capable of understanding
until later on.

 

[moparedtn]

Please explain where the the professional Community got this wrong ?

Again, speaking in general terms (because you can't swing a dead cat without seemingly hitting an "expert"
these days), the "newer wave" of child psychology has totally removed physical discipline as a tool in the
responsible parenting toolbox - which is what we're talking about here.

In fact, so much so that these days, parents are sometimes subject to actual legal consequences for
something as simple as a quick swat on the *** to get juniors' attention - which is ludicrous.
The pendulum has swung too far towards the kumbaya side of things - which means, against the very nature
of the job at hand itself - leaving society with a bunch of what we see in the OP's video.

It often renders parents helpless to do anything more to correct Junior than to appeal to reason with them
at the very times their still undeveloped abilities to do so won't allow them to understand - and for the "lesson"
to "stick", instead of being met with a strictly emotional, irrational response from the child.

It's nature, man. Understand it and work with it - or try to re-engineer it; good luck with that one if chosen.

 

[Big bill]

Ok you got me I guess I don’t know what I’m talking about but I still say hitting little kids or shall I say inflicting physical pain on a child or adolescent in the moment of heightened emotions is theoretically probably a good idea or or do most people go and think for 30 minutes or so and then decide to spank or hit the child.

 

[Triplegreen500]

Ok you got me I guess I don’t know what I’m talking about but I still say hitting little kids or shall I say inflicting physical pain on a child or adolescent in the moment of heightened emotions is theoretically probably a good idea or or do most people go and think for 30 minutes or so and then decide to spank or hit the child.

Its like training a dog. Wait 30 minutes, and the recipient is wondering "what the hell was that for??". THAT, is abuse.

Kid acting up / mouthing off? Not listening to verbal discipline? Smack 'em right then and there. ONCE. Think "exclamation point" on the verbal discipline statements. When they come down off their disrespect-high and their eyes well up from fear/pain/surprise, then you talk firmly to them and explain everything. You don't hit them again. ONE time to make the point, is discipline. Repeated strikes, is abuse.

Kids have no deterrence for misbehavior these days. This is a major reason this generation is so misbehaved - MY generation, I got my *** smacked HARD when I stepped out of line. I learned how to do drywall when I was 12, after dad shoved me into a wall. But, I never messed with his pistol again when he was away! (and, years later, he gave me that pistol because he knew I could handle it at that point).

Its like anything - the punishment needs to equal the offense. Don't go smacking your kid because they didn't go to bed on time...but if they take your car for a joyride and run it up on a curb? That's a different story.

It needs to be made clear to these kids that actions have consequences, and there are rules for a reason. And to quote the Sherriff in Cool Hand Luke - "some men, you just can't reach". Same for kids. You gotta find a way to get through to them. It may very well save their life, later on - if they're kept in line as kids, they likely won't mouth off to cops (and get shot for it) later in life.

You wanna listen to "experts"? Look at THEIR kids, and see how THEY behave. Proof is in the pudding. Oh, the "expert" doesn't even HAVE kids? Yea...no thanks.

Screw the "experts". Look at good children. Ask THEIR parents, "how did you do that?". Every kid is different, but I bet you'll see a trend....

 

[padam]

The decline of discipline in our society is proof enough that modern methods of raising children don’t work.

 

[69a100]

There's a difference between this future felon, and a child reared correctly. I'm not saying an occasional tap on the buttock is wrong, though. I had a friend, as a kid back in Brooklyn, that had strap marks across his back. That's what I call abuse.

I/us kids didn't get it that bad, but when us kids[my brothers and I] were really bad, Dad broke out the barber's razor strap. That's when we knew we were in big trouble and not do what we did ever again, or we might get it worse!

This is what the experts say ,so all you guys on here can honestly say you only got one spanking and you learned your lesson.

Not only yes, but hell yes because I didn't want to get the razor strap treatment! That thing scared the crap outta me. The experts don't know **** about anything!
BTW: Mom always used a rolled-up newspaper or magazine on us because it'd always hurt her hand from the sting, we still learned our lesson from that too!