The nut needs to be used to seat/press the steering wheel (that's why a puller is needed for removal), and it is easy to align on the wrong tooth and peel back/destroy the small splines in the process. At least on every Mopar steering wheel I've removed/installed. Hopefully your threads are ok on the column shaft! Nut's are easy to replace, but that shaft isn't. I would make sure you're real, real certain you are at the right alignment key. Mangled splines from poor install jobs in the past can really through you for a loop. Using a little grease when going to align/install wouldn't hurt either. Also, when you're saying "similar to original", does that mean aftermarket or another Mopar wheel? I would verify the correct number of splines on the wheel vs. shaft. Also, when you do get it to line up & install, use a fine punch and mark a spot on the wheel and on the shaft, so next time it's much more easy/visible to align. If your column shaft threads are messed up, I would try a rethreading die, before resorting to the worst case scenario..