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What would you do?

drobertson

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Boy do I have a mess. I'm 18 years old, just graduated in the spring of 2015, and I really don't know what I should do.

About 3 1/2 years ago my Dad lost his job due to a botched back surgery, and he's permanently disabled and unable to work. Over those years, I learned how much of a struggle life really is! We have nearly no income (cigna refused to pay disability, still fighting almost 4 years later), and my Mom and I are the only adults with jobs. Most guys at my age move out of home, but I need to stick around for awhile until they're on their own feet.

Right after I graduated High school in Worland, WY, we no longer could afford our house. We had to sell it, and fortunately my uncle (who is extremely well-off financially) is letting us live in his home in the middle of nowhere, in Burlington, WY.

THE POPULATION IS LESS THAN 300 PEOPLE!

That's good and all, but with the move, I had to find a job quickly, and hopefully a little closer to Burlington than Worland is...

I ended up getting hired at a Halliburton bentonite plant in Lovell, WY. I have been working there for 4 months now, and I'm really trying my hardest to hang in there, but it's extremely labor intensive for me (who weighs only 135 lbs). My job is called holeplug. Basically I fill up bags with 50lbs of product, and throw 48 bags onto each pallet. In an 8 hour shift by myself, I'm expected to throw 25 pallets. Roughly about 60,000 lbs per day.

This job is about to f#cking kill me. I live an hour drive away from work, so I drive 2 hours per day plus throw 60k lbs of rock. What would you do? I hope I get moved up a position, but it's unlikely for the next 4 months at least. I'd like to find a job closer to home, but almost nowhere else has as good of benefits and pay.

But, I put myself in a huge f-ing dilemna. My dumba$$ grabbed a couple of wrenches, and I completely took apart my 73 Charger. Too far to turn around. Going to be in fresh paint next year, hopefully. Then I've got to keep on working to make money to finish the car. As soon as I get the Charger finished, hopefully my parents are ok financially and I can leave home to start my adult life with an education or something like that.

The million dollar question is... should I find a job closed to home that isn't as hard on my body? I'm sick of driving 2 hrs per day and throwing bags until I want to throw up. Or stick it out. It would be great and all if I get promoted, (im a very hard worker and the bosses like me), but I still have long a$$ days when factoring in the drive, and what not. Or would it be best to find a job that still pays decent, that's half as far away? I'd save gas money. That's a bonus. I want to have enough money to finish the Charger and help my family out when they need it. The build will likely take me 2 years and 35k to finish, but I'm committed to doing it. Thoughts? Opinions? Thanks. - David R.
 
Join the U.S. Military for 4 years.
Do something for YOUR Country.
Then when you decide to get out you have the resume that states:
A) Your a U.S Veteran
B) You are "Honorably Discharged"
C) You have technical skills/and at least 2 years of College under your belt.

Good luck!
 
that's what my grand daughter did. she is now a Sargent in the MP's. stationed in Colorado. she also had a very hard time finding a descent job before enlisting. I have to agree with super-bee ski
 
Enlist my friend. Get a technical MOS cause you can use those skills after you get out. Infantry is not for everyone and the possibility of coming back in a flag draped casket is a real possibility.
 
Disclaimer, Please don't take anything I say as an insult
it's not intended as such, remember you asked, what would you do ?...


IIRC we've had this discussion already a year or so back...
1st off - I wouldn't never quit one job until you have another, lined up 1st...
2nd - if your too frail to do that kind of work,
maybe ask the management {you said they like you}
to put you somewhere your more physically suited to do the work...

Here's the father in me coming out;
3rd - I grew up with tough love, my kids were raised the same way,
but my peers would say "buck up & quit whining"
{no offense}, you have a job, many people your age don't & won't,
stick it out, because you won't be hucking 50# bags of rocks for ever...
4th - You have to start somewhere, maybe that's where they {Halliburtin}
weeds out the undesirables, if they can do a hard days labor, they can make it...

5th - Depends on your smarts & education levels or prior work experiences too...

6th - You can always "Get an education",
That way, so you can use your brain for your job,
instead of your lack of brawn/physical attributes {again no offense meant}
it may not be easy, but life's not easy, sooner you learn that reality the better...

7th - It's honorable your worried about your parents,
your fathers health & physical issues, all aside
but they need to be able to take care of themselves somewhat too,
it shouldn't all be put on your shoulders....
I assume they must be a bit younger/not elderly {30's or 40's maybe early 50's}
if you just graduated from HS...
At one point they need to know your life must go on too,
the apron strings must be severed...

8th - You can still help them financially if your not living with them...

1a - Like ski said;
The military option is a really good one too,
you can actually learn a needed skill, get an education {GI Bill}
serve your country, do something to contribute etc.

I had my son & my nephew go into the military,
he {my son James} was tall & thin,
very good in school, but had a hard time applying his smarts to the books,
he was a B student thou, my son went into the US Navy right before 9/11...
I did try to influence him some...
I thought he would grow a bit {he was really thin}, than go to school later,
he did do both...
He's still in today & he loves it, he's a diver & he will retire from the US Navy...
at like 39 y/o, He also has 2 degrees now too...

My nephew Keith who lived with me also,
{his mother was in the USAF, always gone a lot}
smart as a whip, athletic as all get out, big stud of a buck,
scholarships offered to UC Irvine & a few other smaller schools for
Baseball & Basketball etc. 1993-ish,
We figured he could get a better education & work {my company was still growing then}
somewhere other than for me, but I made it apparent, it was his decision...
I really didn't want him to leave, he was just like me, I was still pretty young too,
I was only 15 when he was born, we were best buds...
Anyway I wanted him to go to school 1st & work for me after...
He was in a fueling squadron in the USAF at 1st,
than took schooling to become a Medical Lab tech/Drug testing mostly...
Got a degree in kinesiology {sports medicine} Sonoma State,
Now he has a Masters in Education from USC, he teaches HS US History
& is a coach for their basketball & golf teams....

He didn't do what I thought he'd do, but it all worked out well...
They are both great strong men today, It wasn't my plan, it was thier's,
sometimes you need to let them make their own way, they learn best that way...

I wish you the best, it sounds like your a great kid, I mean that sincerely...
Good luck in what ever you decide, ultimately it's your decision to make,
for your own good...
 
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Suck it up, do the job while you continue to look and advance yourself. Anyone who goes into the Military winds up being in many many cases well respected for jobs in the private sector. Any time someone has Military service, my company gives first dibs for jobs. If you get good training like Air Force for example you could work for a commercial airline. Work at it, nothing comes easy today.
 
I agree that you should stick with the job until you have another job or a plan lined up. It makes no sense to bail before you have something. Also you have a free place to stay right now, and even though it's in the middle of nowhere, you should appreciate free lodging.

Whether you believe it or not, you have a lot of options because you're so young. If you want something to happen, you have to make it happen. Preparation and hard work are what's needed when an opportunity comes by. So pick a target for your life (5-10 years), whatever it may be, and figure out how to get there. Find someone who's done it. Get advice. Start down a good path.

Like many others have said, the military seems like a good option for you perhaps. Enlist, serve a couple years, support your parents as best you can (don't screw yourself over to do it), and see what you want to do when your reenlistment comes up. If you're smart enough and hard working enough (and you enjoy it enough), you could put in your enlisted time and go to school for a bachelor degree at the same time (GI Bill and/or Tuition Assistance), then you could go enlisted to officer. Retire easily as a major. Just a thought.
 
I pretty much agree with verdelaw. Free housing offsets the price of gas. By sticking it out and doing your job the best you can, makes a major impression on employers. Every employer I know says how hard it is to find workers, especially younger people that will show up and actually do the job. I can't find any help that will work, let alone anybody that actually knows how to do anything.
The military is a very good option, especially for the benefits later in life. A major consideration. But, the military isn't for everybody. It can be a major culture shock for us country boys. Don't go into it thinking that all your problems will be solved.
You seem to have your head on straight, with a good work ethic and attitude. It will come to you, don't rush it and you'll do well. You really aren't alone in your situation, a lot of successful people have similar stories.
As far as your Charger goes, everybody needs a hobby, a way to relieve stress (sometimes creates stress). A constructive hobby will do more for you than sitting in a bar or chasing after whores. Nothing wrong with whores, some of my best friends, just don't blow all your money on them.
There's a lot of good advice on this forum. (Take mine for what it's worth, not much). Good luck.
 
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