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This was my first Father's Day since my dad passed last August, does it get any easier? Or is it always this hard? He was 64 and I was 30 at the time, anyone with similar experience or advice?
Does Fathers Day get any easier?
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JJ383RR
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The first year, of "firsts" is hard. I lost my dad when I was 19, I'm 63 now, The first year sucks, but it's easier as time goes on. Still hurts, but not as much....my opinion
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Thank you glad to hear it will improve over time, if you don't mind me asking what happened?
I think it gets easier....but you never forget them.
My father is still kicking at 81......but we lost my father in law last year. I still see him everyday.....like he never left.
My father is still kicking at 81......but we lost my father in law last year. I still see him everyday.....like he never left.
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It gets easier with time because the focus changes.
Lost my dad when I was 14. I was lost for a few yrs before I got my **** together. It doesn’t get easier, you just learn to live with it. Let the good memories, the way he’d want you to live and how proud he is of you, guide you.
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First sucks, as does the 2nd.. 3rd... 4th...
My Father was 59 when he kicked the can, I was 24. My Daughter made it to 30, almost 10 years ago now. You'll never, nor should you, get over it... but you will move forward!
My Father was 59 when he kicked the can, I was 24. My Daughter made it to 30, almost 10 years ago now. You'll never, nor should you, get over it... but you will move forward!
X2. Like so many things in life, you learn to adjust. A day at a time. If you believe, then you'll be together again, but take your time and enjoy, they'll be there waiting...
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I loved my dad but I was glad when he passed. No more suffering. He went pretty quickly which is how I want to go. I was really tired and I cried once about 6 months after but that was it.
My mom turned 95 on Friday. She says she's ready.
My mom turned 95 on Friday. She says she's ready.
0DegreeEngineer
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I do and so did he, it was one of the things we talked about last over dinner the week before with his mother my grandmother.
It never gets easy. But it will get better and you focus more on the good times instead of the sad ones.
My dad died in 2008 & mom died in 2013. All these years later, I still occasionally get choked up when I visit their graves. My grandparents graves (dad's side) are side by side to my parents & my mom's parents are 60' away, so I get to "see" the whole family each time I go to the cemetery.
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My dad was killed in an electrical accident at work ... Chrysler plant, here in Perrysburg ohio
I lost my dad the first time. The second time hasn't happened yet.
Let me explain: My dad has Alzheimer's and they say that when a person has Alzheimer's you lose them twice. The first time to Alzheimer's and the second time when they pass away. This is very true. Yesterday when I brought a card and went to see my dad he babbled incoherently and I could not manage to explain that it was Father's Day and I was there to tell him how much I loved him. This is hard because my dad was one of the smartest, most capable guys you would ever meet.
In my opinion, it does get easier, as over time you begin to focus on memories of good times and love rather than the loss.
Let me explain: My dad has Alzheimer's and they say that when a person has Alzheimer's you lose them twice. The first time to Alzheimer's and the second time when they pass away. This is very true. Yesterday when I brought a card and went to see my dad he babbled incoherently and I could not manage to explain that it was Father's Day and I was there to tell him how much I loved him. This is hard because my dad was one of the smartest, most capable guys you would ever meet.
In my opinion, it does get easier, as over time you begin to focus on memories of good times and love rather than the loss.
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I am sorry to hear that, mine passed from a blood clot after knee surgery the following morning. that is devastating at such a young age.
I went through that with my Grand father (Dads Dad) it was hard to watch but I understand what you mean, my grandfather was a very stoic person and his personality changed as he progressed, apparently tackled a nurse at the memory care unit... but now all I can remember are the good times and fond memories. It is a hard road to watch that happen stay strong.
I could not imagine loosing three....
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Thank you all for sharing. I think one of the hardest parts for me is my dad was the only person in my entire family that had any interest in cars, there is not anyone left I can talk to about it or pick their brain. They all get this glossy eyed look when I try to explain what I am working on. That is one of the reasons I am so thankful for all of you on this forum. even though I ask some stupid questions it seems like there is always someone here who knows what I am talking about and willing to lend a hand.
My wife recently pointed out to me that this song is about David Gates losing his father at a young age.
Questions are the way we learn. We all have different levels of knowledge and on different topics. Some might be transmission experts but know very little about electronic ignition systems. Some may know about bodywork but not engine tuning. You get the idea.
Never be afraid to ask an honest question. Do your homework first and then ask away - that is the power of FBBO!
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