Big Bad Dad
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I read that the results from one of these DNA sites helped the Police track down the guy arrested for the murder of the 4 college students in Idaho.
Yeah, I have cousins. One retired as a Police Chief. His sister is a repeat offender doing time many times in the same city jail. Awkward, I'm sure....Sister is a Doctor. Brother incarcerated. Who knows. No significance IMO.
I was adopted, but now have my family tree on both sides. I think you'll find it interesting. My sister was also adopted, same nurture. Results differed.Parents are the people who raise you. Period. I think the whole ancestry thing is over rated.
My brother in law thought it would be a good idea to give a spit kit to his siblings. The results created a huge **** storm when they showed my wife and sister had a different father than the two brothers. Apparently their mom had a long term extramarital affair and had two kids by another married man. It tarnished her deceased mom’s memory and was devastating to my wife and her sister, as far as I know their other brother doesn’t know. To make matters worse, my wife’s sister contacted her new found half siblings and turned their world upside down as well. If that’s not enough, she wants to tell the nieces and nephews too. My wife and I are dead set against it, because it tarnish their memories of their grandma.
What started as simple genealogy research ended up causing pain and heartbreak for several families.
Some things are better off left alone…
Parents are the people who raise you. Period. I think the whole ancestry thing is over rated.
That “nearly“ part can reap you a **** ton of govt. bennies. Just remember Pocahontas…….LolI did the Ancestry and 23 and Me tests.
I was surprised to learn that I was nearly 100% White.
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Trump called her Focahontas meaning fake Indian! LolThat “nearly“ part can reap you a **** ton of govt. bennies. Just remember Pocahontas…….Lol
Is your sister's name Donna?? Man, she sounds a lot like sister! Before the internet was readily available, 'Donna' decided to start in with the ancestry stuff and when she found how much work it was she asked me to help. At the time, my kids were young plus I was working 3 jobs and she knew that but she said "can't you quit one of them". Yeah right and she got pissed at me and told me she wouldn't make any of the findings available to me. Oh geez, hurt my feelings will ya. She's always been a witch to me.I can agree with your first assessment, while offering a "not so much" on the 2nd part.
Allow me to try to explain:
(Ed Story Time!)
In my own corner of the world here, I'm pretty much down to a brother and sister left from
the entire immediate family - a rather sizeable one in its' time, I might add.
I am my fathers' namesake and no doubt was closest to him when he was alive.
My sister started up on ancestry.com several years ago - she being the self-appointed historian
of the bunch (she has spent her life removing herself as much as she could from our upbringing
and heritage - guess their humble roots are embarassing to her).
She's always liked to passively rub her success at both money and "status" in my face, since I
chose to return to "roots" about 25 years ago (she's failed at that every time - but she still tries,
all the while telling me how much she loves me).
She granted me access to this ancestry.com thing recently, so I figured I'd take a look...
and mostly, all I saw was her years of work on her husbands' family tree and not so much on our
own.
Always trying to impress others, that's her....
She thought my checking into the site would impress me no end at her work; well, not so much...
Instead, it has only amplified the desire in me to want to know more about where I came from than
I already know - especially documentation and such in support of what I can remember.
You see, as I get closer to my own accelerated demise and most who have known me that are
still above dirt continue to either consciously or naturally fade away from me and I find myself alone
more and more each day, it's become a bit of unfinished business to complete my moms' and dads'
"stories" - and thanks to my sister, there's enough motivation to get done what she should have
been doing all along.
Will the results matter to much of anyone in the future? For most, probably not - but my goal since
this whole rapid degradation process began with me has always been "not to leave a mess",
which includes "don't leave anything unfinished".
God willing, I'll have the time to see this one last task through...
It matters to me, if to no one else.
MarsI would like to know who’s DNA they compared it to.
We all came from a comet, mine happens to be Halley's Comet.
It's a big decision. I did three decades of research, and still didn't take the plunge, my daughter did. It can go really south, as I said earlier, I have personal experience. I sat through a presentation on the issues in a legal seminar chaired by a PA supreme court justice, who had no simple answers, just a lot of questions.No. That kind of data is much too important to be entrusted to anyone.
I know my parent's, grandparent's, aunt's, and uncle's medical histories...what were their ailments and what was their natural cause of death.
No, not Donna.Is your sister's name Donna?? Man, she sounds a lot like sister! Before the internet was readily available, 'Donna' decided to start in with the ancestry stuff and when she found how much work it was she asked me to help. At the time, my kids were young plus I was working 3 jobs and she knew that but she said "can't you quit one of them". Yeah right and she got pissed at me and told me she wouldn't make any of the findings available to me. Oh geez, hurt my feelings will ya. She's always been a witch to me.
Just about the time Covid started my middle daughter was wanting me to present a sample for testing. Don't know why because the witch was done with the all the searching and actually passed it around to everyone about who our ancestors were. Maybe my kid wanted to prove I was actually her dad and probably at the suggestion of the witch. Told my daughter sure but didn't really the money to spend on that right since since my X (her step mom) took all of that. Anyways, that's as far as that went......
Mars