Right on
@Hey-O
Fortunately a couple of years have passed now since I was at the funeral of the third of 3 friends (since we were 15 or 16 years old) that died in as many years.
I'm 60, even though I think someone much older than I must have typed that, especially with no kids or grandchildren, gaging the passing of time isn't easy, and I am very "young in spirit" but my body aches more than I'd like.
My point is that, for example, I just missed going to one of my favorite car show events, "Mopars at the Battleship" in Mobile, AL at the Battleship Alabama. This is the SECOND year in a row that I haven't gone. My Roadrunner is ready "enough" to go, and while I'd go without it if I had to, it's that great a show,
I wasn't "in a position" to go...
The "vacation camp" by the beach on the Mississippi Gulf Coast that was to be of MAJOR benefit for the ONE "guaranteed" vacation we allow ourselves each year, the week of Cruisin the Coast, when she drives her 1965 421 cu in Tripower GTO and I drive my 70 Roadrunner about 45 minutes from our house to the "camp" and can STAY there, well the nightmare of a 3 year old SAGA of trying to build and finish it is finally just about done! THAT has been a soul shredding money pit of despair and financial strife, but it is practically finished. I already told my taskmaster, my wife, that I'm not going there to cut grass or clean the pool or do much of anything else. I didn't think EITHER of us were going to be able to go to Cruisin the Coast last year, AT ALL (that ONE "guaranteed" vacation I mentioned) because of work schedules and financial drain. Oh the IRONY that the place that was to take our Cruisin experience to the stratosphere has been the reason why we COULDN'T go. She's also doing her Nurse Practitioner school work, as a RN, getting to NP is something she has wanted to do for years.
ALL OF THAT and other obligations have taken charge of my life, making my life NOT MY OWN, and that is a place of MISERY that I no longer want to be in.
So with the construction project basically done, her approaching the end of her school work (and hopefully making a good bit more in pay) I am looking to punch big holes in my schedule to be able to enjoy my Roadrunner more, and to live life more according to what I want to do, rather than my days being filled with my business responsibilities (that really don't bother me, I love my job, my work, and my clients) house upkeep responsibilities, and my wife demanding that ANY other time I have outside of that be consumed by her never ending list of crap that either she can do or she/we/I can pay someone to do.
It's a long post, but definitely relevant to the OP because his question, like many in life, boils down to:
Time
Money
Managing a balance of the two.
I can hustle a little more to make more money, but I can NOT add years to my life, and that number while unknown is nevertheless getting smaller, and I don't want to, I REFUSE to spend however much time I have left being miserable because I am not enjoying ANY of it.