ok i need some older guys help .

[Bb70charger500]

Ok guys I need a little help as some know I'm a younger guy almost 29 and I'm married. So here's where I need help I want to keep the piece in my house but don't want to loose any of my cars . So I'll lay it out for you .
I have a 64 Newport conv(it has a deposit so as soon as the rest of the cash shows up it will leave) ,
a 72 rallye charger,
a 74 s.e. sunroof car,
a 73 dodge d100,
a 71 rt charger (on its way)
a 74 rallye parts car ,
im in the process of buying another parts car ,a 74 3 on the tree car(but it's leaving soon ) and then lastly I'm babysitting a
72 440 4 speed charger for awhile
So yeah theres a little bit going on around here the Newport and the tree on the tree cars are leaving soon so we really vcan drop them from the list.then the babysitting car is leaving soon too.
So that leaves 5 the sunroof car belongs to my wife so it gets full amnesty.
So were down to my baby's the rallye is almost ready for paint and reassy but still needs rust repair. The rt is not here yet but also needs rust repair. The d100 (general D ) needs a clutch and a few cheap upgrades to make it run and drive perfect daily driver condition.my idea was fix it and flip it for some extra money to put back in the bank to pay myself back for the rt. (Are you still with me?) So she wants me to take the rt and push it instead bof keep it since I had 3 people email me already and offer over 10+k and I truly want to keep it for myself I offered to sell the truck and my 72 rallye to help raise funds and make more room. So what do I do to keep the piece? Sell my most favorite mopars or??? Face the music? Sorry for the confusion but we've gotten into 3 fights already because of the cars. And I don't know what to do. Any input would be great (and no I'm not giving my cars )

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This is most of the culprits I don't have pictures of the Newport or the two parts cars.
Please help tell me what most of you guys done and how was the outcome?

 

[Chargerjase]

I don't have the issues you have because I only have a daily driver and my project car. I can give you a bit of advice though since I have been married 20 years. Lose all of the cars except the 74 sunroof car and the RT. If you do that, she will come around because you have made a huge effort. Also it's a win/win for the both of you and that is important in a marriage. If you have a parts car, strip it and save any parts for your RT. Fix that truck ASAP and flip it. Hope it all works out for you.

 

[Mopar Man 73]

I agree with Chargerjase. I've been married 13 years. I have a couple of project cars, one which I'm eventually going to sell to help on bills. The other will keep to work on a family project. This keeps everyone happy. Just remember to not let the cars own you!

 

[Lets Roll]

Sounds like my Ex-wife. There is no easy way out of this.

 

[Habib]

First off you should of never gotten married lol Jk.

But I would sell all the others and Focus all the Attention and Money on that R/T James. it would be very cool IMO to have that and the 72 Rallye but if you want to sell that to Fund the R/T, That is always a Viable option.

 

[Cornpatch MO]

Did you mean to spell it p e a c e or are you telling it like it really is ??? 8-) Speaking from experience- sell down to what you really want -long term, and quit searching for bargains--unless they are easy and quick flips..................................MO

 

[GetX'd]

Tell your wife you're going to miss her - and enjoy the cars..... Lol.

Been married awhile - you have to comprise to be fair or you'll be eating TV dinners the rest of your life.

 

[biomedtechguy]

I had an '89 Chrysler Conquest TSi. Bought it with money I made directly from my own Audio/Video business at the time. T-Rex ahem...I mean wife "made" me sell it, and it was very very nice when I bought it (drove it back from Ohio to Louisiana when I bought it ) then put a lot of money and good upgrade parts in it, plus more great upgrade parts in my garage, and REALLY enjoyed that car, but she hated it (because of issues she had with me). Anyway, long story short, she now has a '65 421 GTO, and I have an awesome '70 V code Roadrunner (and we're still married) Choose wisely Danielson....

 

[Seventy]

I would sell them all and get a 68-70 b-body...

But seriously, I have a buddy that just collects projects, he has 2 68 chargers, 3 67-69 camaros, a 72 camaro, a 56 ford pickup, a 57 chevy, he has been working on all of them for about 20 years, he has 2 in his garage and the other 6 outside, I would say he could get over $100K for all the cars and just buy some thing done he can drive, lol. I tell him that all the time, he always talks about getting a big block chevelle SS convertible, I would dump all of them cars and go buy a nice one all done and shiny..

I think if I were you I would sell everything off except the one you like the most, put all the funds and energy into that one, and when its done maybe start looking for the next one. Where do you keep all these things, lol..

 

[Richard Cranium]

I've been married 28 years and my wife has pretty much let me get what I want. I've raised her eyebrows a few times, but I've never had a bunch of project cars hanging around the yard. Had I gone that route, I know that she wouldn't have been pleased.

 

[Bruzilla]

What's the root cause of the problem? Having a bunch of parts cars sitting around? Spending too much money with nothing to show for it buy parts cars? Spending too much time chasing cars instead of her? Find out what the real problem is that'll give you an answer.

 

[Seventy]

What's the root cause of the problem? Having a bunch of parts cars sitting around? Spending too much money with nothing to show for it buy parts cars? Spending too much time chasing cars instead of her? Find out what the real problem is that'll give you an answer.

Bru may have actually hit that one o the head, I didn't think of it that way, maybe reverse engineering this type of problem is not the answer, instead of thinking about the end result, start at the source, see what her issue is and deal with it.

If its having cars everywhere, either find out of sight storage or get rid of them
if its time and she wants more of your, thats pretty simple, spend some time with your wife, then she will be begging you to go work on your cars, lol
if its money, thats the easiest one to remedy, either make more or spend less, pretty basic cause and results, there...

I hate to say, having a dozen unfinished cars is probably not good for anyone, yourself included, I would be stressed the heck out, I have just a few waiting projects, all kept inside and only 1 at my house at a time, my wife doesn't mind, but it sometimes stresses me out, I end up buying extra parts because I lose track of what I already have or passing on somehting I need because I thought I had it, its MUCH easier and more productive to concentrate on one project at a time...

 

[Brandy]

My wife and I have been married FOR EVER...lol. We keep it real by keeping it even. I spend what she spends and visa versa. She's a quilter so she has expensive machines and stuff. When I go on a parts run to the salvage yard she goes on a material run to the quilt shops.

 

[GITEX]

That's Funny^^^^^ But oh so true..

 

[Sixpaksteve]

Since you asked for 'older guys help' I'll chime in since I'm 55 now and so I guess I qualify.

If you truly love your wife, want to remain married, and you want to keep the peace at home, my advice is to keep one car and unload everything else. As someone else said, your wife will see the effort you're making on your relationship and she'll respond to that in a positive way. Focus on your relationship with her first instead of a 'fleet' of old cars and you'll be a happily married man for many years, AND you'll have one really nice old MOPAR to show off at the local cruise in.

As you get older (40's+) if your relationship & health are still sound and you're doing well financially, you'll have the opportunities to add more old cars to your garage. But at 29, it's my opinion that you're biting off a bit more than you can chew right now. (No disrespect meant by that, just being honest since you asked).

Your generation isn't going to have any Social Security to help you out financially if/when you're even able to retire. Be sure that you're putting away money now (as much as you can afford to save) so that you don't have to work for somebody until the day you die.

 

[barnfind]

Simply put, make her and her car the priority.

 

[Cranky]

My second marriage going on 30 years but we met in 1970. She didn't even like me at first sight but after the 1st date, all that changed :grin: and cars were in the equation back then. She helped me work on my first hot rod but as time went on and I ended up with 12 cars (some nice ones and too many parts cars), she asked me if I had too many irons in the fire. It wasn't anything to do with me not paying attention to her because she went with me on most parts chasing runs and to buy cars. The thing she didn't like about me is my drinking and I probably did drink too much.

Is your wife involved with your endeavors? Are you involved with any of hers? The saying goes, the family that plays together stays together. My first marriage fell apart after 5 years because we didn't share each others likes not to mentioned she turned into Godzilla after our first and only child was born. Long story short, my old girlfriend from 1970 and I ran into each other again and we've been together ever since.

Sounds to me like maybe you have too many irons in the fire. Also, how much money are you spending vs recovering from each car. Maybe you should keep a ledger on each one and keep track of time and money on each and every vehicle this way you can show her what's real. I used to build engines and rear ends (lots of rear ends) to the point that I thought about just opening up a store front but decided against that since we already owned a furniture store. She ran that and I was just the 'delivery boy' lol. She also helped me do some engines but I think that was more to understand how an engine worked.

Lots of good ideas in this thread however, my X wife was the cause of me selling some cars that I really didn't want to sell and that bad taste is still in my mouth. She hated my 70 440 RT Challenger convertible for one. Hated my motorcycle for another and I had a bike when we got married. Hated to go fast.....hated me just acting like I was going to go fast. Hated most of my friends too. What she saw in me that made her decide to marry me is a question that still haunts me nearly 40 years later! I know why I asked her to marry me and now see the reasons I had back then were a mistake. Study some psychology my friend lol

 

[Bb70charger500]

Wow guys a very good response, well let me add a few more details I've owned over 200 cars as that's how I fund my projects as I don't use paycheck money for cars so I buy cars fix as needed and sell for profit (I never loose money) that's what general D is here for same for the 3 on the tree charger,the Newport is a little different it was my father's project that he said screw it and we found a newly restored 300k so that s why I have this Newport (but it's sold ) so I bought her the sunroof car because she wanted it. I bought the rallye because I wanted aan r/t and I couldn't afford one so I started building it. And have gotten very far on it . I found the r/t and could afford it so I jumped on it (without telling my wife) then I needed storage for it so I ordered a 12x20 shed. To store it in (again without telling her) now I'm sure it's about money as we are remodeling our house and it's costing a lot . Now to add the big monkey wrench I am no longer able to work but I don't want to give up my dream of owning a rt but to be honest I'm not sure how it's going to get restored I don't want someone else's restored car because I'm never happy with the quality of the resto I've had a few finished cars and they were nice but I was never happy. The rallye is almost done the way I want it . But this rt came up and it is my second favorite car the first being a Daytona witch will never happen. I guess I don't want to loose another car I've always wanted as when me and my wife meet she had me sell my 68 charger rt 4 speed car and my 73 big block sunroof charger .
I'm sure she's upset about money going out and nothing coming in but I've worked very hard up until I got hurt I own my house out right I own both of our new cars outright and I own everything in my house outright. So not sure why I'm getting crap from her because I've given her everything she has ever wanted. Hell she has a brand new 40000 dollar car didn't hear Any complaints about that money going out I had my new charger witch I sold to get extra money to fund my car builds .I don't know kinda feels one sided she gets everything I get nothing

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I've almost finished a few cars and something always come up where we need money quick so I end up selling my cars all the time like when I got hurt in my accident we needed money to keep our house so my charger was sold to keep us going

Then there was the cars that were finished and again something came up and we needed money again like these two

It just doesn't seem fair as she doesn't give anything up when something happens.
I don't know what to do . Females are hard to read.

 

[69a100]

How many car garage do you have? How full is it? Why aren't those shells parked in the garage? If I was your neighbor, I'd be really pissed at you with all those eye sores outside your house and in my hood!

 

[Seventy]

Well that is a different situation all together, if you think something is "unfair", then you need to tell her that, if its still 1 sided, uhhh' thats no fair, lol.. I kow guys are programmed to take it on the chin when it comes to their wives vs their needs/wants. BUT when its so lopsided that you feel badly all the time, you need to try and fix it between you and her, because its going to have nothing to do with the cars.

IF you 100% self finance all your "projects" and the argument is about money and not about cars everywhere or your time, then I say you are 100% correct in the situation.

When I am building cars, i worry about the money a lot more than my wife, I see a gauge cluster for $2000 I want, and she says "BUY IT, it will take you forever to put it all together yourself", and I am like "heck no, I can build it myself for $700"... And I dont keep them in the yard at the house, just in garages, SO its about time, but she likes car shows, she likes taking the road trips with me, and she likes going for rides in the cars, plus when I am working on something, like the other day I was assembling a column for a friend of mine, she will sit there with me and watch tv while I am working on the stuff...


In your situation, I would file for divorce., jk, lol... I am trying to picture it, does she tell you "you have to sell that car we need money, because I want to buy soes and a new hand bag?" or am I villainizing her too much"