I had a thought about this last night in regards to my own situation.....that may be similar here.
Think about this: How many more times do you think you'll move across the country?
I know...that is actually a rhetorical question. I assume that you only plan to do this once. Given that, maybe you should consider that since this isn't going to be a frequent change in your life, just do what you have to do to make it work. If it is a difficult experience, just accept that and get through it.
Good times are temporary just like bad times.
Mary and I have been thinking of a move out of state since 2019. I have truckloads of cars and parts to move and We have 4 dogs that will go with us as well. One of our dogs is a problem child that has to be separated from one of the others. We have dreaded the prospect of transporting 4 dogs across country. I've just accepted that it will be an ordeal and that it is just something we will have to deal with. The upshot is that once it is all over, it is over.
I know that it will be a pisser but you will get through it.