Just Need To Vent Before I Get A Divorce

[eagleone1983]

So my wife texted me this morning and said she took the car to work. I've told her in the past I don't really want her taking it to work because I don't trust it in at her works parking lot, it's small and crowded. Then she texts me and tells me oh it's raining :angryfire::angryfire::angryfire: I almost couldn't hold in my anger. I literally just finished cleaning the whole car top to bottom and scrubbed the undercarriage from the storm we got stuck in over 4th of July weekend. When I got pissed she began to tell me its her car too and if she wants to take it out she will. I'm seriously about to lose my cool. I get it, we are a family and yes it's also her car but it's different to me. I built it and I take car of it. Anybody else been in this argument before? I know there is no winning it but dang am I hot right now.

 

[khryslerkid]

Well if its hers too then tell her she'll have to clean it for taking it on a day when they're calling for rain. Get her all the things that you use to do the job, sit there with your favorite beer and make sure she does it to your satisfaction...

 

[69Runner]

Vent away, it happened to me too, in my case when I was out of the country on business and she decided to have a girlfriend "teach her" how to drive standard in my new Challenger. Lots of laughing over the phone as she told me too. Anyhow fast forward 2 years and the Challenger is gone, but my 67 now has an electrical trick switch as a "security" feature.

 

[zyzzyx]

Just remember how much you love her! You married her. So you have to clean it again. So what! Just remember, that when you're 20 or so, "Half" is not so much. But now, "HALF",is alot!

 

[69Bee]

I've been there, done that, got the tee shirt. Now that I am 50, married-divorced-remarried, I can offer you this important advice------ it's only a car. Your marriage should be more important than a material thing such as a car. I do understand where you are coming from, my X would do the stupidest (as far as I was concerned) crap, and I would get furious. Hell, she even wrecked the fender at the carwash, because she wanted it to be clean when I came home. I was so mad I couldn't see straight, BUT now that I am older, calmer, grownup, whatever you want to call it. The car is not more important than your family or wife.

 

[khryslerkid]

My former father-in-law use to say "whats hers is hers and whats yours is hers". Notice I said "former"...

 

[super-bee_ski]

I personally would be thankful that "my wife" wanted to be with the car!

The way I see it, everything "CAN BE FIXED" and unless the car is a show car, let her drive it.

I think it is cool!

Sorry,
Good luck with your issue.

 

[Derwud]

My Ex-Girlfriend took my car to a ZZ-top concert while I was on a trip with her brother to pick-up some family furniture.

 

[Roger63]

Its only water and if you live in utah you should more excited about the rain lol, my wife wants a chevelle so be happy.

 

[Seventy]

Build a 4 speed with a super stiff clutch and a bit too much cam, she wont want to drive it then. My wife used to take the black chevelle SS to the grocery store until someone back into the door, she drove all the way home not knowing, parked it and sent the kids out for the groceries my oldest noticed the side of the car can opened and came in the house asking what happened.

We both walked out side and I was like "what the **** happened to the car????" she said it must had been like that when she took it lol. We called the cops and they checked the tapes from the market, sure enough a bmw macked the side and drove off with its bumper hanging, lol... They tracked it down and got me insurance info of the other driver by the end of the day, turns out it was some guys son who took the car to pick his girl up from work and got scared.
I dont know how my wife didnt notice, the door panel was smashed into the seat, anyway the insurance company came out to look at the wreck and offered me $6500 to fix the damage, I took it to a buddies body shop and their second offer was $22K and change, I fixed it with mostly parts I had except a new quarter and rocker, it was hit hard enough to bend the floor, I sold the car right after and my wife doesnt drive any of them anymore..

I am going to build her a shelby cobra kit car next year, fuel injected 302 DZ motor with a 200r4 automatic...


ANYWAY, let her drive it, let her clean it, and buy another one for you...

 

[Richard Cranium]

I trained Submit properly, so she would never do that to me.

 

[eagleone1983]

I can see both sides. It really isn't as much about the car, cause you're right it can be washed and it's only rain. It's more about how she went about it. We are a fairly young couple, I'm 32 she's 28 been married seven years. When we had our daughter I told her she could stop working and raise her. My daughter is now 4 and my wife just started working again about 4 months ago. So when she said it's her car too she also said half her money paid for it...but she didn't work for most of the time the car was being built. It just kind of got under my skin and just adds to some of the stuff she's said to me before about my job when she wasn't working. I'd come home tired or sore and she'd say what's wrong with you, you just work at a desk. Made me want to quit and go work as a construction worker so I'd have the dirt under my nails but a quarter of the pay and tell her to enjoy that salary.

 

[monaco66coupe]

It sounds like she likes the car too? an old classic I assume? I would ask how would she feel if it got stolen while at work? If it can be easily replaced, it's just a car, make her happy. Think positive, At least she called saying it's starting to rain! Lol

 

[747mopar]

I was actually excited when my wife told me she wanted to learn how to drive my Charger. Since then I've been fixing the little quirks that will give her fits so she will enjoy it...... having said that I'd be a little ticked if she drove it to work for the same reasons you stated (don't like parking lots).

 

[eagleone1983]

I'm glad she likes it and wants to drive it but you don't know my wife. She's scared to pull a car in a garage. She's jack knifed a boat trailer into the bumper of a truck, ran into a sign and damn near took her mirror off, and almost ran the Roadrunner into the back of the garage when she thought she was in reverse but was actually in drive. I'm also kidding about the divorce, as pissed as she can get me there are a lot more happy times.

 

[monaco66coupe]

In our early years of marriage I drove a 69 GTS, and My wife had a 69' Custom hardtop.(79-85) She moved up to a 71 new Yorker, then minivans as the kids got older. Now it's a jeep. The point is, My wife loves looking at the old Dart, but she has absolutely no Interest in driving any old car, mine Included. So I think I'm safe! Now my Daughter, I have to watch like a Hawk! She loves 60's cars!(she's 30)

 

[eagleone1983]

Monaco, your daughter is going to be a keeper to some lucky guy out there.

 

[moparstuart]

so my wife texted me this morning and said she took the car to work. I've told her in the past i don't really want her taking it to work because i don't trust it in at her works parking lot, it's small and crowded. Then she texts me and tells me oh it's raining :angryfire::angryfire::angryfire: I almost couldn't hold in my anger. I literally just finished cleaning the whole car top to bottom and scrubbed the undercarriage from the storm we got stuck in over 4th of july weekend. When i got pissed she began to tell me its her car too and if she wants to take it out she will. I'm seriously about to lose my cool. I get it, we are a family and yes it's also her car but it's different to me. I built it and i take car of it. Anybody else been in this argument before? I know there is no winning it but dang am i hot right now.

hidden kill switch

 

[Dennis H]

One day after I detailed (her) 06 Daytona she did some Vanishing Point moves in a DIRT parking lot with it! Same day. Can't explain the unexplainable.

 

[Gone]

I must live in a perfect world...my wife has no interest in my Super Bee and can't drive a 4-speed anyway!