I have 2 adopted sisters
(one has died, young at 39 y/o)
& have 3 adopted kids, from 2 different fathers,
(they were very young) & I (so do the kids) know all their family history
(I adopted Lisa's kids, from Lisa's indiscretions when she was much younger
I gave them my name & a steady/stable support structure after Lisa was gone
& absolutely no help whatsoever, from their biological fathers)
IMO, nothing ever good came out of any of their searches
& I was completely honest with them all
I supported them in any way, no matter their decisions
& they have since regretted knowing & even meeting them now
they (my kids) even have said; I am their father, I was who raised them
gave them a good stable home
my 2 sisters really struggled with it
even after knowing, who the biological parents were
nothing good came from it, at all
(family 'health' history, is probably the only good part, in some cases, it's not good too)
my mother had an adopted sister too, much younger like 15 years younger
it tore her family apart
I won't go into details, it's private family ****
I know not all situations are the same too...
But they (org. biological parents) gave the children up to begin with...
for whatever reason
sometimes the father doesn't/didn't even know, they had a child
it can be a huge difference in their life too, good or bad
(think hard 'on that fact', you were raised, cared for by your adopted mother & father,
not the biological seed or sperm donor)
IMO it's really a private struggle
& only the person can make that decision
YOU
as soon as you're 18 you can get the info,
if it's even available
with or without your adopted parental approval
some biological parents don't want it known either, too
that fact, needs to be respected also
that's my $1.25 on the subject
