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I get disappointed a lot...

Mopar Miki said:
This is best thread ever, thank you all for sharing
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Appreciate it, thanks!
Let's go to a car show today - this one is a personal favorite (obvious reasons):
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Fred and I need to get out and about. It's been a long summer.... :thumbsup:
 
Ed, I think you've been more blessed in your career of choice than most people I know. Especially if you are at retirement age and only your last employer was ****. I suspect that this is because of the size of the companies you've worked for or with, but that's an assumption and we know what those do.

I've never worked for a company that wasn't in the fortune 1000. I've been working around computers as a coder for 33 years after 8 years in the Navy. After all this time in corporate America I still lament what the shipboard structure and chain of command provided. But I've had to interview for a job I already had in a merger, watched the ebb and flow of internal employees versus consultants/managed services. See normal individual contributors turn into napoleon when advanced to managers. Watched ageism disguised as skill progression. And come to this conclusion. Pragmatist, pessimist or optimist they're all situational and on the same scale.

My parting statement from someone who's summer vacations in the late 7os included a dirt floor summer kitchen, a dog trot house with newspaper in the walls(with the mice) and a snuff using granny that lived to 102.

It isn't happy people that are thankful, it's thankful people that are happy.

the best definition of success is contentedness, not comparison.
 
moparedtn said:
At this point in my life, I can now look back at all that and acknowledge it for what it is -
it no longer has any bearing in my life and I've let it go - stopped trying to "fix" it.
How incredibly freeing that is! 20 pounds, right off my stooped shoulders...

I know how the world worked for me - how despite all the dishonesty and such, I managed to provide for
a family, build my homestead on the ridge, have a wonderful wife who can both support and critique as
needed - and of course, pour my soul into Fred the GTX!

Despite all the trevails, I stand today a blessed man and I damn well know it.
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Excellent summation, Ed, to both your career, and this thread. I've always been curious to see how your posts would take form, much like probing the histories of my cars. I don't pretend to have traveled the same health road, having gotten away pretty much unscathed until recent nuisance issues, but I also got a boost on my numbers when I called it quits. Serenity may well provide a boost that is more than the bloom before the curtain comes down. Hope that's the case for you.

Going out on your terms, for the right reasons, is a serious accomplishment. Thank you for sharing.
 
Davefinan said:
I’m disappointed in you …….LOL
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In closing , let’s go back and look at my actual post that started your being upset .
In a reaction ( not a snipe ) I sent this above as a way of possibly lightening up the mood ,hell , there is even LOL after it to make sure everyone knew it was in jest. You did not. Possibly because you take your “writings “ very seriously.
Now let’s look at your reaction to what I said below.

moparedtn said:
I didn't ask for any examples, but thanks for the "participation" anyways...
(You might want to actually read #4, by the way - I beat you to it).
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Laced with lightly veiled snide remarks. And for what? Because I tried to lighten up the grim sounding ( whatever that was).
When you post ANYTHING here , anyone can respond , react , joke , snipe , disagree, pick your post apart, anything they feel( within the guidelines of the forum of course).
So please , try to lighten up and stop trying to make it sound to us that you are going die any minute. And then turn around and talk about how you feel better than you have in fifteen years. It’s tiring.
 
OMTWF-72SE said:
Ed, I think you've been more blessed in your career of choice than most people I know. Especially if you are at retirement age and only your last employer was ****. I suspect that this is because of the size of the companies you've worked for or with, but that's an assumption and we know what those do.

I've never worked for a company that wasn't in the fortune 1000. I've been working around computers as a coder for 33 years after 8 years in the Navy. After all this time in corporate America I still lament what the shipboard structure and chain of command provided. But I've had to interview for a job I already had in a merger, watched the ebb and flow of internal employees versus consultants/managed services. See normal individual contributors turn into napoleon when advanced to managers. Watched ageism disguised as skill progression. And come to this conclusion. Pragmatist, pessimist or optimist they're all situational and on the same scale.

My parting statement from someone who's summer vacations in the late 7os included a dirt floor summer kitchen, a dog trot house with newspaper in the walls(with the mice) and a snuff using granny that lived to 102.

It isn't happy people that are thankful, it's thankful people that are happy.

the best definition of success is contentedness, not comparison.
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Appreciate the reply...
I've not written anywhere that "only your last employer was ****"; in fact, I believe I've mentioned a few times previously that
several times in my career, I in good faith walked into a company, built their service division to healthy levels - and then got
unceremoniously dumped to the curb as my "superiors" arrived at basically the same conclusion:
Now that Ed's built it, we can keep the volume and save his salary. Cut him loose...
Seemed to be the "smart" way to run a contracting firm in my line of work, like it's in a playbook somewheres.

But....again...
All the usual psychobabble and cliched slogans aside, the point of this exercise is to proclaim that I've finally let all of it go.
It no longer has any negative effects on me going forward; no haunting dreams reliving yesteryear plague me anymore.
I'm in a good place, I am fully cognizant and appreciative of my blessings and a lot of what used to be important to me...
just isn't anymore.
It's all good. Had a blast in the steamy heat of the Tropic of Tennessee today with my wife and Fred the Wonder GTX. :thumbsup:
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68BabyBlue said:
Excellent summation, Ed, to both your career, and this thread. I've always been curious to see how your posts would take form, much like probing the histories of my cars. I don't pretend to have traveled the same health road, having gotten away pretty much unscathed until recent nuisance issues, but I also got a boost on my numbers when I called it quits. Serenity may well provide a boost that is more than the bloom before the curtain comes down. Hope that's the case for you.

Going out on your terms, for the right reasons, is a serious accomplishment. Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you my friend - and I think you might have something there with that theory! :thumbsup:
(Hell, I got no other explanation for it...)
 
Davefinan said:
In closing , let’s go back and look at my actual post that started your being upset .
In a reaction ( not a snipe ) I sent this above as a way of possibly lightening up the mood ,hell , there is even LOL after it to make sure everyone knew it was in jest. You did not. Possibly because you take your “writings “ very seriously.
Now let’s look at your reaction to what I said below.



Laced with lightly veiled snide remarks. And for what? Because I tried to lighten up the grim sounding ( whatever that was).
When you post ANYTHING here , anyone can respond , react , joke , snipe , disagree, pick your post apart, anything they feel( within the guidelines of the forum of course).
So please , try to lighten up and stop trying to make it sound to us that you are going die any minute. And then turn around and talk about how you feel better than you have in fifteen years. It’s tiring.
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Apparently it's wearing you out for sure...but since you're still mistinterpreting some of what you read, I'll leave you
with one last correction to your latest incorrect assumption:
Not only am I NOT insinuating that I'm "going die any minute" - but I've stated ad nauseum that I'm actually working on year
13 of what was supposed to be a 10 year diagnosis, as saddled me in 2013 after the "worst" of my several-time flatlines/resusitations
in various hospitals.
The "accelerated aging" thing is also part and parcel of that prognostication, given to me by simply the best in the business
doc I had for that particular cancer - and that part is very real indeed, I can now attest.

That all said (again), make no mistake - my plan is to outlive all you mofos....
and I'm just mean enough to do it. :thumbsup:

You're right of course about folks being free to respond to anything on here...but in your case, I'd suggest you're
missing out on the unmentioned, less aggravating option perhaps:
Folks are also free to ignore and move on from any post (or writer) they don't like or agree with.
You and yours have a good life; I'm done with this.
 
Well it looks like mopar ed may have finally run out of stories.

I point out to him that I was making an attempt at a joke in response to his sad sack story ( whatever that was) and he attacks me for it. He says I misinterpret his words. But he never acknowledges that he misinterpreted my light hearted response. ( again and again).
Remember, you started this with your smart arse reply to my light hearted post.
I ve resisted bringing this up at the risk of sounding how you do , but you are not the only one here with medical problems.
There are no doubt many. Myself…..recent kidney removal with complications due to cancer. Several other ailments as well. But I , unlike you, don’t feel the need to broadcast it here to a bunch of people who mostly want to share auto related experiences and have a little fun .
If you feel the need to reach out to folks here for sympathy, then at least refrain from criticizing their responses.
Funny thing is , a simple “ oh , didn’t know you were joking “ would have sufficed. Would have Saved all of this negativity and time I can’t get back.
 
OMTWF-72SE said:
I gotta say, sometimes it helps to be a little crazy too when **** goes wrong.

for example when they told me the small benign spot from 2 years ago had grown to a 7x7cm mass and entagled with my thymus, thyroid and sub vena cava. The thoracic surgeon said he'd need to consult with other drs because he'd never seen anything like it in 25 years.

I was shocked and my first statement was, well make sure you spell my name right in the white paper. 3 seconds later my wife called me a dumbass. It was a thymoma, so I named it Jason Thymoma. Jason for Friday 13th because he was always trying to kill folks, and Jason Mamoa because it rhymed with thymoma.

See crazy helps
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The well timed humor can help. No sympathy needed, just enjoy the sick joke your story reminded me of. Years ago my mother died, my brother went to the mortuary a couple of times to see her because he was a little obsessive and weird. He then killed himself (this all happens in about 2 days time), so my sister and I go to the mortuary and speak to the fellow and explain what happened. He was a little shocked and asked if we meant the guy who came to see our mother, we said yes and made arrangements to have him go there after the autopsy.
It was only in the parking lot afterwards where my sis and I are a mess and I look at her and say "**** we could have asked for a 2 for 1 discount".
Sick maybe but helped us cope!
 
OneWheelPeel said:
The well timed humor can help. No sympathy needed, just enjoy the sick joke your story reminded me of. Years ago my mother died, my brother went to the mortuary a couple of times to see her because he was a little obsessive and weird. He then killed himself (this all happens in about 2 days time), so my sister and I go to the mortuary and speak to the fellow and explain what happened. He was a little shocked and asked if we meant the guy who came to see our mother, we said yes and made arrangements to have him go there after the autopsy.
It was only in the parking lot afterwards where my sis and I are a mess and I look at her and say "**** we could have asked for a 2 for 1 discount".
Sick maybe but helped us cope!
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Sometimes you just have to say something like that.
My brother passed away unexpectedly in 1994. He was a best man for a friend who lives in British Columbia and he was a best man for my brother. I am about 6 years younger than our friend.
He flew out to Saskatoon, and we drove the 200 miles to the farm. Shared a lot of stories. He became a very close friend since then. He told me that (He had to come to the funeral to make sure my brother was not late). My brother was notorious for being a little late. That comment did bring a smile.
My friend also said the same thing to the pallbearers on the way to the graveside. All broke out in laughter apparently.
Small towns all have gossips. We were standing in a receiving line after the service. And two old busy bodies came to give their condolences. Wanted to know who I was with.
I said this my first wife Maxine and our two son’s. They just didn’t know what to say. She still is my first wife.
 
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Davefinan said:
Well it looks like mopar ed may have finally run out of stories.

I point out to him that I was making an attempt at a joke in response to his sad sack story ( whatever that was) and he attacks me for it. He says I misinterpret his words. But he never acknowledges that he misinterpreted my light hearted response. ( again and again).
Remember, you started this with your smart arse reply to my light hearted post.
I ve resisted bringing this up at the risk of sounding how you do , but you are not the only one here with medical problems.
There are no doubt many. Myself…..recent kidney removal with complications due to cancer. Several other ailments as well. But I , unlike you, don’t feel the need to broadcast it here to a bunch of people who mostly want to share auto related experiences and have a little fun .
If you feel the need to reach out to folks here for sympathy, then at least refrain from criticizing their responses.
Funny thing is , a simple “ oh , didn’t know you were joking “ would have sufficed. Would have Saved all of this negativity and time I can’t get back.
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Just remember, YOU brought the snipes first, choosing to continue well past time the party was over rather than
simply acknowledging and moving on...leaving me little recourse.
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Oh well, welcome to the Ignore list.
 
moparedtn said:
Just remember, YOU brought the snipes first, choosing to continue well past time the party was over rather than
simply acknowledging and moving on...leaving me little recourse.
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Oh well, welcome to the Ignore list.
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I am extremely upset that you will be ignoring me. Wait.
Hold on a second.
Ok. I’m over it.
 
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