The first wife was not an emotionally secure woman. We met when we were young so there was a lot of maturing left in store for us. In a short time, she got lazy. She got comfortable . How else can you explain a woman gaining 70 lbs in her early 20s without having children? She gained a bunch of weight, THEN went on a diet plan from Jenny Craig....Remember that company? It cost over $3300 over several months for her to go from just over 200 lbs down to 140. About the same time, I had been working extra hours to pay for the meal plans and to pay off her car. She was 10 lbs from her goal weight....As soon as the car was paid off, she decided to leave! She had a renewal of confidence after the weight loss, her car was paid for and she left. It was the best thing that she could have done for me. It opened the door to allow me to find a better woman.