Bruzilla
Well-Known Member
Wow... 20% of marriages have resulted in people who met online? Gee, that means 80% of them met in person! Let me ask you "new school", would you rather do something that offers a 20% chance of success or an 80% chance? If I asked you to drive from Chicago to Jacksonville, would you rather drive a car with a 20% chance of making it or an 80% chance? I'm guessing you would take the 80% every time. 
You're spot on about some guys being shy, and that's one part of the problem. The other part is these guys are looking for easy ways to overcome that shyness like getting hook-ups from friends, having their Mom set them up, or like that newfangled internet you keep raving about. Easy isn't better. It feels better, but it's not. Sure, you can use chat rooms and singles services, and there's a good chance you'll end up on a date with Richard C's boyfriend... err girlfriend... err itfriend.
You want real success, think old school. There's a reason why these basic principles have been around since forever... they work! All you got to do is do them! There's no better motivator for human beings to do something than when they have nothing to lose. This is the appeal of the internet. You can chat with someone and you've got nothing to lose from it. But, the exact same thing can be said for talking to women in social settings like fla 66 mentioned. This is even easier to do when you've got some shared interests like at church or car shows. You don't have to ask anyone out, just get comfortable talking and all that shyness crap falls away very quickly. Even better, as your confidence grows, your appeal to women grows with it. Believe me, I know this from personal experience.
When it comes to this internet dating thing, just remember the famous words of Groucho Marx: "I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." Yes, anyone can get involved in internet relationships, but that's the very problem with it. The only people who are involved in that process are people with issues the same, or worse, than yours. Who wants to be in that club? You meet a girl online by telling her you're too shy, she tells you how shy she is, you end up on a date where you both sit there like a couple of mannequins because you're still too afraid to say anything to a live person, and what do you accomplish? NOTHING! Take the hard, old school, road of working to get over your shyness and then any relationships you have with women will be better.
You're spot on about some guys being shy, and that's one part of the problem. The other part is these guys are looking for easy ways to overcome that shyness like getting hook-ups from friends, having their Mom set them up, or like that newfangled internet you keep raving about.
Easy isn't better. It feels better, but it's not. Sure, you can use chat rooms and singles services, and there's a good chance you'll end up on a date with Richard C's boyfriend... err girlfriend... err itfriend. You want real success, think old school. There's a reason why these basic principles have been around since forever... they work! All you got to do is do them! There's no better motivator for human beings to do something than when they have nothing to lose. This is the appeal of the internet. You can chat with someone and you've got nothing to lose from it. But, the exact same thing can be said for talking to women in social settings like fla 66 mentioned. This is even easier to do when you've got some shared interests like at church or car shows. You don't have to ask anyone out, just get comfortable talking and all that shyness crap falls away very quickly. Even better, as your confidence grows, your appeal to women grows with it. Believe me, I know this from personal experience.
When it comes to this internet dating thing, just remember the famous words of Groucho Marx: "I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." Yes, anyone can get involved in internet relationships, but that's the very problem with it. The only people who are involved in that process are people with issues the same, or worse, than yours. Who wants to be in that club?
You meet a girl online by telling her you're too shy, she tells you how shy she is, you end up on a date where you both sit there like a couple of mannequins because you're still too afraid to say anything to a live person, and what do you accomplish? NOTHING! Take the hard, old school, road of working to get over your shyness and then any relationships you have with women will be better.
