There was no "encouragement" in your post until you got to the "The best of Bdays to you..." part, for which I thanked you.
Prior to that....well, I'll just kindly refer to it as "the obvious" - which I confirmed I was aware of and needed no reminders
Now, as to the newest point you've brought up:
Some folks deal with things different ways; there is no "correct" way if it works for you and harms no one else.
Yours is not to share and that's fine.
Mine - isn't - and that's fine too, of course.
Several folks seem to enjoy my ramblings on here, which isn't the intent but is welcome just the same.
Conversely, I'd imagine anyone uncomfortable with my doing so would simply avoid reading them.
Seems the logical thing to do.