This week has been rough. On Tuesday my mom called to let me know that my stepfather Phil was getting lifelighted to a the hospital. Phil had suffered a heart attack. After spending 12 hours with Phil in the CCU I said my final goodbye. He passed away a few hours later having never recovered. For the better because he would have been an invalid most likely.
Phil was a cool guy and a wonderful human being. He had many stories and several cool cars through his lifetime.
He was loved by all and now there is an immense Vaccumn in our lives. Anyway he also left alot to be cleaned up by the living, which we will do in the coming weeks. Most notably was debt but as stated, my mother will cross that bridge when the time comes. As for now we've been notifying friends and planning a memorial.
Phil was ten years older than my mom and had children from two previous marriages.
His daughter Angela, kept in touch through the years and was part of Phil's life.
His two sons and him had not spoke in decades. Put it this way, Phil was an important part of my life for 26 years and never once did his sons come and visit him despite the fact that he regularly tried to make amends with him. They lived less than 75 miles AWAY!
Now that Phil has passed, suddenly they want to be part of his will. As stated he didn't have much.
Never in 25 years of marriage to my mother did they call, visit, text, write or even send a Facebook post. They never even introduced themselves to mother or Phil's new family or friends.
I'm kind of at a loss what to do now, Phil was a very kind soul and would be glad that his two sons came to pay their respects. My mother on the other hand, is a take no prisoners kind of gal and is offended that after 25+ years of negligence that they would have the audacity to come looking for handouts.
Should I tell them to **** off?
I've decided that they can have old photographs from Phils years before I knew him and such, but get absolitely nothing of monetary value.
I'm hoping things will go well but cautiously guarded
