Single guy with married friends.....?

[Budnicks]

Misery does love company

yes it does

 

[MarPar]

yes it does

My Grandpa always said "It is better to walk alone, than in bad company." How very right he was. RIP Pa.

 

[Ron H]

My Grandpa always said "It is better to walk alone, than in bad company." How very right he was. RIP Pa.

Isn't there a kick *** tune called "Bad Company"? Ok, I'm being sarcastic..

 

[MarPar]

Isn't there a kick *** tune called "Bad Company"? Ok, I'm being sarcastic..

 

[Cranky]

Bad sumptim or anuter.....

 

[Kern Dog]

I had single friends when I was married, I had married friends when I was divorced.
Now I have a friend that is divorced 3 times and in his late 50s. He talks about getting drunk and going to concerts, flirting with women....all the things you'd expect from a guy in his 20s.
He married a woman that he got pregnant back when he was in his early 20s so I think he missed out on the single scene. He went from wife to wife to wife with not a lot of down time.

 

[chargervert]

Wow! He called the cops and they made her give him his keys back??? Geez, if he couldn't make it down the street ya'd think the police would a just waited for him to put his car in gear. Those cops weren't by chance driving an early 60's Dodge with the number 54 on it?

My wife was worried that the people he hit were going to try to sue us,because he was drinking at our house. He brought his own booze,I didn't serve him,and she did everything possible to stop him from driving the car. The cops were the ones who gave him the keys back and let him leave. We offered to bring him home and bring him back the next day to get the car. The parties were scaled down after that incident.

 

[Cranky]

My wife was worried that the people he hit were going to try to sue us,because he was drinking at our house. He brought his own booze,I didn't serve him,and she did everything possible to stop him from driving the car. The cops were the ones who gave him the keys back and let him leave. We offered to bring him home and bring him back the next day to get the car. The parties were scaled down after that incident.

Hard to believe the cops gave him the keys but I guess that was a different time back then....

 

[moparedtn]

I envy folks who have families and kids; never had any of my own, although at one point,
I did adopt a couple of boys and did what I could there.
Wound up, I couldn't trust their mother and divorced her....major failing for both IMO.
I love kids and am the type that naturally has a blast with them - but I'm also glad when
they go home with their parents, too.
Most all of my relatives are long gone too, including all parents, grandparents, little brother...
Weird how that wound up, what with my train wreck of a medical history??

I have a brother and sister left out of all of it and we're in touch, but they've both made great
successes of themselves and choose to live in the urban sort of setting I voluntarily left
25 years ago. We're friendly and love one another, but it's not like we see each other much.
I suppose I'm sort of the black sheep, but I also wound up trying to be the peacemaker too,
especially when a parent was in dire medical shape - I'd try and try to get this estranged
relative to come or that one, with only partial success sometimes.

Trust is big to me, too big really - if I can't trust a person, I don't forgive that particular
slight. I can't. It's just not in me for whatever reason...
Once the betrayal occurs, it's lights out for me and I drop all contact, bluntly.
I admit, that's a major character flaw...
But it does tend to limit how many true friends (versus friendly acquaintances) I've had in
this life, naturally.

Now?
Multiple wives - check.
Grew up in a true Beaver Cleaver type of family and loved it - check.
Close friends in school with all the stories, but now far apart - check.
Self-imposed isolation on the side of a ridge in Podunkville - check.

And wouldn't you know....after all that life experience, the wife I wound up with turned out
to be the keeper after I screwed that whole married thing up, more than once.
Again, trust. She's always been here, never flinches when things get rough.
Same thing with my best friend now - he's got a bit of a past, but his character is strong
and he's always been there for me when **** went sideways - and I trust him.

Icing on the cake? What the heck is going on with YOU guys here on FBBO now!
It's been a crap year for me, still is - but how can any fella complain about anything with
this wife, best friend and my FBBO buds all getting my back??
Answer: I can't.
Shaddap and get humble, Ed...

 

[cr8crshr]

I had single friends when I was married, I had married friends when I was divorced.
Now I have a friend that is divorced 3 times and in his late 50s. He talks about getting drunk and going to concerts, flirting with women....all the things you'd expect from a guy in his 20s.
He married a woman that he got pregnant back when he was in his early 20s so I think he missed out on the single scene. He went from wife to wife to wife with not a lot of down time.

You just brought to mind a former Viet Nam close Friend that has gone basically the same route. You would think maybe after 3 times, he might have figured out that maybe, just maybe, he wasn't cut out for it. Now he's in number 4 and still cannot get it right. Sadly, he is no longer in the Friend category due to ripping me off and acting as though it doesn't really matter. Some people one just never knows about in the end...cr8crshr/Bill

 

[chargervert]

I had single friends when I was married, I had married friends when I was divorced.
Now I have a friend that is divorced 3 times and in his late 50s. He talks about getting drunk and going to concerts, flirting with women....all the things you'd expect from a guy in his 20s.
He married a woman that he got pregnant back when he was in his early 20s so I think he missed out on the single scene. He went from wife to wife to wife with not a lot of down time.

I got married at twenty years old, I had a wife two step sons,a mortgage and a dog to take care of. I am still married to the same woman, we had two more children, they are all grown up, 36 years later. I still have quite a few friends from back in the day, we don't hang out every weekend like back then,but we still hang out and do car stuff often.

 

[Hey-O]

I many cases that's just how it happens, one gets married and the rest keep moving on. We had a guy in our group that got married very young, his wife , also a long time friend, didn't appreciate our get togethers after they got married. After a few months things just changed. Weird thing is that he got a divorce and we got married and things still didn't work out. Time waits for no one.

 

[Chargered]

I didn't get married the first time until 28 and the majority of my friends from school got married years before I did. What I noticed was that they quit hanging around and pretty much never came over anymore. Even my surfing buddy stayed away. It was like I'm now a bad influence. Well, now that I'm single again it's deja vu!! And well, several of them are no longer among us to be fair. Any other single guys experience the same? Not really complaining much because no one is borrowing my stuff and screwing it up anymore....

Ya, once I got married, I stopped hanging out with all my friends. Then when I had kids it got even worse. I don't keep in contact with anyone anymore. My family takes up all my time which I guess is okay with me. Most guys change a bit when they get older I think. Between my busy job, my family and taking care of the house and all the cars and other equipment, I have zero time for friends. Always something to get done.

 

[Kern Dog]

One thing that occurs to me sometimes is that I wish I had more occasions to drive the classic cars. When I am working, the day is usually taken up by work and maybe a couple of errands on the way home. Being in construction, I need to or prefer to drive my truck for that. On days off, if I go to a store and don't need the hauling capability of the truck, the classics are fine. Some times on the weekends, I take the 75 Power Wagon to the dump but the Charger seems to primarily be used for cruising. I rarely use it as a car to get groceries, car parts and such. With this years troubles and cancelled car shows, I haven't been able to drive it for those events at all.
I write this as a comparison.
Seeing friends when your life is busy can be difficult. Being married with kids makes free time a little hard to come by. Add in home ownership and it gets worse. Your time gets spent keeping the peace at home.