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It has taken me many years but I am getting better at spotting and dealing with people that I don't like.
For the record, I like MOST people.
Race, Color, religion and sexual orientation different than mine don't bother me.
Here is what does.....
People that only call when they need something.
People that monopolize the conversation.
People that leave me feeling like I'm fighting for airtime, as if I have to actively fight to get a word in.
There are a LOT of people that are either completely ignorant of proper manners or are just outright rude. I am obnoxious but I'll listen to what you have to say. Many people do not.
For example:
A guy I've known for maybe 12 years had moved away almost 2 years ago. I bought the "Jigsaw" Charger from him before he left. He moved out of state and calls occasionally.
Never has this guy seemed interested in asking questions or listening to what I have to say when he calls. It is always what he did, what he thinks, what he wants to do and so forth.
When I get a chance to speak, he drifts off, loses interest, hums or sighs....
I have realized that I have a rapidly diminishing tolerance for him and others like him.
I see guys at car shows like him.
My car this....My car that, etc.
I will not tolerate this anymore.
It isn't as if I want to be the only one talking....I just want a fair exchange. A conversation, not a speaker and an audience.
People need to know that their life is not the most interesting thing to other people.
I try to ask opinions, ask about the person's spouse, their kids, job, etc.
Unfortunately, some of these ignorant jerks see that as an excuse to just talk MORE instead of taking the cue and reciprocating.
No, please...tell me MORE about YOU.
I'm putting the word out to people that I know, most of whom are considerate and good people. Maybe they will pass it along.
I will not tolerate inconsiderate people. I will call them on their bad actions until they change or decide to not talk to me anymore.
If they disappear from my life, no big loss to me.
What about you? Have you reached the point where you are LESS tolerant of people like this?