Old people.

[SteveSS]

I substitute at an independent living facility. It's really fancy but that doesn't mean that much to these old people. They are ready to die. A lady I spoke to the other day just turned 100. She was in Paris during WWII. I congratulated her on her birthday and she said, "What a waste of time!" My mom is 94 and she's ready to go. They don't want to live this long.

 

[Hey-O]

Most of the population isn't ready to live that long financially. Those that you see are mostly using the last dime they have to be there. Life can be incredibly lonely when you get to that age and you look around and see that you're basically missing everyone you started with. Getting old isn't for the faint of heart.

 

[68BabyBlue]

Most of the population isn't ready to live that long financially. Those that you see are mostly using the last dime they have to be there. Life can be incredibly lonely when you get to that age and you look around and see that you're basically missing everyone you started with. Getting old isn't for the faint of heart.

When I did the tour of the facility where I have my deposit, my wife and I met a couple who were 94, and had been living independently in their apartment for two decades. Career military, pilot and a nurse. They were still enjoying their life. They had been dealt a good hand, and then made good decisions to get to where they were. Sadly, not the typical experience in our society.

 

[Hey-O]

When I did the tour of the facility where I have my deposit, my wife and I met a couple who were 94, and had been living independently in their apartment for two decades. Career military, pilot and a nurse. They were still enjoying their life. They had been dealt a good hand, and then made good decisions to get to where they were. Sadly, not the typical experience in our society.

It's very expensive, 15,000 a month for both my parents. All places are questionable and I told them they would never know when my brother and I would show up and if my parents weren't treated right, we would be there to ensure that they walked the line. Sounds crazy, but I saw things that I didn't appreciate going on. They constantly over charged monthly with add on consumables that are hard to track. They finally let us look at the monthly bill and strike off what we didn't receive. It was hard to watch sometimes and if you don't advocate for your loved ones, they'll try to eat you alive. Sounds like BS, it's not.

 

[zyzzyx]

No one knows what kind of a hand they're dealt. We just have to deal with what we have.

 

[68BabyBlue]

I lived 10 minutes from the place where my dad stayed. He was lucky, and got in at a cheap rate, without having to wait. This was 30 years ago. Now the place has a six year wait list, if you want to get the preferred pricing. He was treated well, I watched them like a hawk. If you want to jump the line, the $15,000 per couple rate applies.

 

[Hey-O]

The problem is they have very few Medicaid beds and the list is a mile long to get one. Medicaid is not the money maker they prefer to house.

 

[Dennis H]

We were at a 100th BD party last night. I got so much going on I don’t want to think about it.

 

[padam]

The problem is they have very few Medicaid beds and the list is a mile long to get one. Medicaid is not the money maker they prefer to house.

Yep, your not getting into a Medicaid bed.

My experience with ALL medical facilaties is that if someone isn't looking out for the patient, the patient will be ignored at best, and could be abused.

Having said that, when my dad was in assited living I made sure the facility was close enough that I could visit a few times a week. I hated the admins, becasue they constantly raised his rate and were real ball breakers. But the ladies that did the actual work, were really great to my dad. They put up with a lot more BS from him than I ever would.

Also in the end the hospice ladies were angles. I dodn't know how they do that job.

But when when it comes to personnel I think we got really lucky. I've seen some really bad ones too.

 

[j-c-c-62]

My mom is 94 and she's ready to go. They don't want to exist this long.

Mine is 96, Her 86-year-old BF that she madly adored passed away last week. I live 100 miles away and only family nearby. She is mentally alert as anyone could expect a 96-year-old person to be.
It breaks my heart. Makes one question if a pacemaker is really a blessing or a curse?

 

[Hey-O]

Yep, your not getting into a Medicaid bed.

My experience with ALL medical facilaties is that if someone isn't looking out for the patient, the patient will be ignored at best, and could be abused.

Having said that, when my dad was in assited living I made sure the facility was close enough that I could visit a few times a week. I hated the admins, becasue they constantly raised his rate and were real ball breakers. But the ladies that did the actual work, were really great to my dad. They put up with a lot more BS from him than I ever would.

Also in the end the hospice ladies were angles. I dodn't know how they do that job.

But when when it comes to personnel I think we got really lucky. I've seen some really bad ones too.

I can see you had it figured out, you've a good person and better son.!!

 

[Hey-O]

Mine is 96, Her 86-year-old BF that she madly adored passed away last week. I live 100 miles away and only family nearby. She is mentally alert as anyone could expect a 96-year-old person to be.
It breaks my heart. Makes one question if a pacemaker is really a blessing or a curse?

When there was a problem brewing my brother would send me in. It's not because I think I'm a bada**, I just have a way about me. I ended up looking out for several others whose family lived a good distance away. They hated me and I told them I liked it that way. They were virtually being held with golden handcuffs.

 

[#41]

There is physical age which is a number, but being "old" is more about your health and attitude. My moth-in-laws boyfriend is 88 and still rides a racing bicycle, rides his quad in the mountains regularly, and drives a truck with loud exhaust and flames painted on it. He's younger than most 60 year olds.

 

[QuickBpBp]

The guy I worked for my whole life sadly passed 2 years ago in December at 82. I helped move him from a few different living facilities as some were horrible but he needed the care. Since they are very wealthy, his wife had a private nurses 24hrs a day and his own doctors too this was in addition to what was there. Now to my point it was one of the saddest places my wife and I have ever seen. Literally people just waiting to die most not knowing who or where they were. The same people were in the same spots EVERYDAY. It was tough knowing he was there since he was like one of the men who "made" America heck he even owned a large property from the old money ones who helped make America... In the end he was cared for no expenses spared but he ended up where it just didn't matter... Very sad to see how our elderly end up leaving this world.

 

[Hey-O]

I've had people I knew that thought the government or insurance was going to pay for 24 hour care during a long term hospice situation. I've done hospice for a few people, ALS and brain cancer. I've noticed that my area has 5 or 6 new retirement facilities. Our generation is come of age and they're getting ready to tap into our hard earned savings. It's a game they play, I call it fleecing the flock.

 

[j-c-c-62]

I have read that 50% of one's lifetime health care costs are generated in last two years of one's life.

For what, so somebody can buy themselves a new boat?

Not if I have any say in the matter.

 

[Hey-O]

I have read that 50% of one's lifetime health care costs are generated in last two years of one's life.

For what, so somebody can buy themselves a new boat?

Not if I have any say in the matter.

We like to experiment on our elderly with different ways of extending their life through a process I call, better living through chemistry. Why does this bother me so much, I go in for surgery this coming Wednesday to repair the mistake left by a doctor 6 or 7 years ago. It's not about the mistake, it's the fact that they talk in circles hoping to lose you along the way. I had a talk with this doctor some time back and was made to feel like she was smarter than me. I told her I was 52 when I retired, keep it up and you'll never retire. She just stared at me, like, how dare you talk to me that way. She shut up and was smart enough to walk away. No I didn't sue her, but I got a bigger kick out of watching her squirm. 50,000 a year for malpractice insurance is a problem. 700 to 15,000 a month, depending on their field. That's why many join a medical group.

 

[themechanic]

Mom went to be with Jesus last spring at 86. Between her sister and me 7 different long term care facilities were visited and toured. There's more in the OKC Metro area but these 7 accepted Medicaid. Mom lived in assisted living and all was well until dementia and a few falls ended that option.

I recommend this thread:

Aging in the US

Mom fell and broke her other hip about 5 weeks ago. She's been falling and breaking bones now and then for about 4 years. Until recently Mom was living independently in a small assisted living apartment. She's in a Long Term Care facility now after not recovering in 5 weeks if skilled nursing...

www.forbbodiesonly.com

 

[icetech]

I substitute at an independent living facility. It's really fancy but that doesn't mean that much to these old people. They are ready to die. A lady I spoke to the other day just turned 100. She was in Paris during WWII. I congratulated her on her birthday and she said, "What a waste of time!" My mom is 94 and she's ready to go. They don't want to live this long.

Hell, i'm 54 and ready to go.... I think Logan's run had it right... nothing gets better after 30(ish)

 

[hemi*guy]

My wife and I both have long term insurance. Not cheap but won’t be a burden on our kids. I hope I go fast but you never know. Trying to make their burden a bit less.