I've been scarce around here lately. Here is what happened.

[Ron H]

Not a funny topic, but my somewhat odd life experience is making me chuckle as I read this stuff.

Amazing how times have changed. Posted about this before, so apologies if any read it before. When I worked at a machine shop, starting in HS, about a year later the owners were looking for women to work flexible hours during the day. Soon after we had about 10 ranging in ages from the 20’s to the 40’s. By then I was promoted to a working foreman of the mill & drill dept. These ladies reported to me for the common stuff, job assignments, help when their machines needed work, etc. Some were hot. How they enjoyed ribbing me as a youngster, some pretty raunchy stuff I’d never heard of from adult ladies that made me blush a few times. THAT really got them going. Think they had bets on who could make me blush on any given day. I never minded it, got used to it; but certainly a learning curve though, lol.

Later I was a manager in an office that was around 80% female. Man, the stories I could share on the nasty and flirty stuff (I posted about before). It was kidding around, a fun working environment. Around the mid-late 90’s all the thing about sexual harassment arrived. Managers had to attend several day courses on it…by a female instructor w/o a sense of humor. ALL the lists about what one can’t say and the possible lawsuits, firing and such. By the 2nd or 3rd day I had listed the things I’ve said to inquire more: Can I compliment one of my female staff on her outfit? Nope! I mentioned one lady got a new haircut, really a change from what she had and it looked great on her giving her a compliment. Was it ok to tell her so? NOPE!

I got a bit pissed about this and said, can I tell one of them they look crappy today? The instructor got pissed saying something about “How important is your job to you?” I replied with another question as ironically it had happened just recently: Was having a lighthearted discussion about a project with one of my female staff; she told me to eat her shorts. Should I have her fired for this?

The working environment did change after all this, tense, afraid of saying anything that in any stretch might be conceived as offensive, even giving a friggin compliment! Some of them sure dressed nicely, sexy, showing off their figure and the make-up, etc.

 

[Kern Dog]

CERTAIN programs, while (maybe) well intentioned, end up causing a LOT of anger and division.
I'd have to go to the political forum to elaborate...

 

[DeltaV]

There seems to be no lasting effects from the fall.

One that has developed a few months back....The partial lack of a filter that we all are supposed to have that keeps us from just saying what we actually think.

Talk to Mary and see if she has noticed any changes. Discuss what you noticed in yourself and discuss what she has noticed. Discuss means lay it all out on the table. Then, go see your doctor and take his advice...him sending you to a "brain specialist" or whatever they're called.

I'm serious.

 

[Cranky]

Amazing how times have changed. Posted about this before, so apologies if any read it before. When I worked at a machine shop, starting in HS, about a year later the owners were looking for women to work flexible hours during the day. Soon after we had about 10 ranging in ages from the 20’s to the 40’s. By then I was promoted to a working foreman of the mill & drill dept. These ladies reported to me for the common stuff, job assignments, help when their machines needed work, etc. Some were hot. How they enjoyed ribbing me as a youngster, some pretty raunchy stuff I’d never heard of from adult ladies that made me blush a few times. THAT really got them going. Think they had bets on who could make me blush on any given day. I never minded it, got used to it; but certainly a learning curve though, lol.

Later I was a manager in an office that was around 80% female. Man, the stories I could share on the nasty and flirty stuff (I posted about before). It was kidding around, a fun working environment. Around the mid-late 90’s all the thing about sexual harassment arrived. Managers had to attend several day courses on it…by a female instructor w/o a sense of humor. ALL the lists about what one can’t say and the possible lawsuits, firing and such. By the 2nd or 3rd day I had listed the things I’ve said to inquire more: Can I compliment one of my female staff on her outfit? Nope! I mentioned one lady got a new haircut, really a change from what she had and it looked great on her giving her a compliment. Was it ok to tell her so? NOPE!

I got a bit pissed about this and said, can I tell one of them they look crappy today? The instructor got pissed saying something about “How important is your job to you?” I replied with another question as ironically it had happened just recently: Was having a lighthearted discussion about a project with one of my female staff; she told me to eat her shorts. Should I have her fired for this?

The working environment did change after all this, tense, afraid of saying anything that in any stretch might be conceived as offensive, even giving a friggin compliment! Some of them sure dressed nicely, sexy, showing off their figure and the make-up, etc.

We had lots of fun at the refinery.....some of the women didn't like to have fun and we knew who those were and yeah, some of the women out there were pretty crazy but like where you worked, it came to an end and then many other things that we couldn't do anymore took out all the rest of the fun.

 

[Richard Cranium]

Talk to Mary and see if she has noticed any changes. Discuss what you noticed in yourself and discuss what she has noticed. Discuss means lay it all out on the table. Then, go see your doctor and take his advice...him sending you to a "brain specialist" or whatever they're called.

I'm serious.

Perhaps if you climb back up on the roof and fall off again, you will be returned to normal.

 

[hdwrench]

i had a similar incident a few years back , took a fall messed up my neck ! it is tough at this age ! healing takes longer , re hab takes longer , i’m just getting my wind back . but it could of been much worse, i’m thankful the big guy wasn’t ready for me . i did p.t. at hospital before leaving and continued off site for 6 weeks. then got home and rode stationary bike and kept moving. in time most of you come back . best of luck on your healing !

 

[Kern Dog]

Talk to Mary and see if she has noticed any changes. Discuss what you noticed in yourself and discuss what she has noticed. Discuss means lay it all out on the table. Then, go see your doctor and take his advice...him sending you to a "brain specialist" or whatever they're called.

I'm serious.

Thanks.
The "filter" has always been thin on me. Maybe I've just felt like my comments won't be taken as a "come-on" since I've lost some of my youthful sex appeal....

Mary notices no other changes, neither do I. My temper has waned a bit over time, my tolerance for stupidity seems to be holding steady, my eyesight is the same, I sleep the same, I do notice my strength has dropped off a bit since retiring.
I do appreciate the concern.
I have to balance being a typical male (thinking I'm invincible) with the unwanted tendency to be a hypochondriac.

 

[khryslerkid]

Greg, who says you weren't doing this before your fall?

I'll tell you now, stop doing it. It will get you in trouble. If you do it to the wrong one you'll regret it. We're living in different times. If you see a hot woman while you're out, come home and take your wife to bed.

 

[DeltaV]

seems to ne holding

You're making more spelling errors and not proofreading!

 

[Cranky]

You're making more spelling errors and not proofreading!

 

[dadsbee]

Thanks for da Red X @3sloppydogs

 

[3sloppydogs]

Similar experience
Some years ago a hurricane blew through here and the gutter in the back got plugged. The water started coming in so I had to give this some attention.
On a ladder in the heavy rain a gust of wind blew me over. Luckily I survived with bad bruises and a story

 

[Hey-O]

Perhaps if you climb back up on the roof and fall off again, you will be returned to normal.

Talk about no filter!! LOL. If we were neighbors, my lawyer would get a work out. LOL

 

[Kern Dog]

Greg, who says you weren't doing this before your fall?

I'll tell you now, stop doing it. It will get you in trouble. If you do it to the wrong one you'll regret it. We're living in different times. If you see a hot woman while you're out, come home and take your wife to bed.

I can shovel back whatever anyone throws at me. I’ve complimented black women, young girls and even a full figured one yesterday. It isn’t like I’m strolling the fabric stores and flower shops looking for chicks…I just make comments to people that I see along the way. I’ve even complimented a man’s hair. No guy has ever gotten homophobic so far. My pants are always on and my hands are not down the front.

 

[Richard Cranium]

I can shovel back whatever anyone throws at me. I’ve complimented black women, young girls and even a full figured one yesterday. I see beauty and ugly but have only approached the nice ones. My pants are always on and my hands are not down the front.

Sounds more like you need to tell the missus that you need to get the poison out.

 

[Kern Dog]

I’ve been fortunate that she is as willing as I am.
I have slowed down though.
Not many guys will come out and admit that. I love to look at other ladies (with absolutely no intentions to take it further) but I’m not as pressed to romp with the wife like I did a few years ago. I am fully capable but I’m just not as driven as I was.

 

[kiwigtx]

Sounds more like you need to tell the missus that you need to get the poison out.

You mean like this ....?

 

[Hey-O]

There's always a drive in a good relationship, it can vary or take on a different intensity as we grow. Sparks can fly without burning the house down 7 days a week.

 

[Ron H]

some of the women didn't like to have fun and we knew who those were

True. There were the gals who did not partake in the kidding around and we respected that, well except for one jokester in my dept I had to have a talk with, after my boss notified me about a complaint. Then it became my problem. Great guy and all, but I had to tell him ya just can’t say that stuff anymore…end it if you like your job here.

 

[Hey-O]

We had lots of fun at the refinery.....some of the women didn't like to have fun and we knew who those were and yeah, some of the women out there were pretty crazy but like where you worked, it came to an end and then many other things that we couldn't do anymore took out all the rest of the fun.

I've always held the door for Theresa, on one occasion, while I was holding it open, two women were behind her. The problem with holding the door is, how many are behind us and when to stop and move on.The first behind her was about our age, she looked at me and smiled, followed by a thank you. The last was a young lady and she just looked at me and said, I can do that myself. She was waiting for me to let go of the door. You know how 3 seconds can feel like 3 minutes sometime, this was that time. It wasn't just the way she said it, it was the look too. I stood in front of her and let it close, leaving us both outside. She opened the door for herself and I grabbed it and opened it all the way and followed her in. Theresa said the first women heard it and just shook her head and say thank you to Theresa and said, That's the problem with our society today, no common decency. I still hold the door open for Theresa and anyone following, but I not afraid to let it go now and move on.