Parents today, sheesh

[J5 GTX]

Just in case everyone had a normal weekend I thought I'd post this story. I was at the local home improvement store looking at lumber. There was, near me, a husband, wife, and their 2 kids. Boys about 3 and 4. The husband walks off, says he'll be right back. The 2 boys started getting wild.
Mom: Stop that.
Mom: Stop that, right now.
Boys getting wilder, picking up stuff, running around, jumping in and out of cart.
Mom: Stop that, sit down.!
About this time I thought about wacking the kid with the 1x2 I was holding.
Each time the mom told her boys to "stop" her voice got more and more strained and elevated. She looked like she was about to pop a blood vessel.
Finally, the dad comes back. He sees the commotion and asks:
What's going on? What's the problem?

And the mom says: "the boys aren't making good choices!" That's an exact quote.

I know this is turning into one of those, "when I was a kid" stories. When I was a kid, I got told once to stop. Just once. Mom didn't say it twice. She never did the counting thing. If I didn't do what she said, I found out soon enough I had made a bad choice. And if for some bizarre reason I decided that maybe I really didn't understand. That belt would come out of the loops, from dad.
Anyway, that's my story for today.

 

[Dennis H]

As bad as we think it is, it's worse. Kids don't have parents today. They have an adult - on the phone - with them. Kids don't have a chance. No guidance.

 

[moparnation74]

As bad as we think it is, it's worse. Kids don't have parents today. They have an adult - on the phone - with them. Kids don't have a chance. No guidance.

They don't have parents because the kids today think they are the parents......

 

[NOSTRT980]

the government are the parents, they are taught at school that if mom or dad correct you. you have an 800 number to call or use 911. my friends son called 911 a few times on his dad and then there was a court date. long story short the kid is now a man that dresses as a girl. go figure.

 

[polywideblock]

when I was a boy mum told us once , after that we were told "wait till your father gets home"!!
when he got home "the **** hit the fan " end of story, soon learned to do as mum said too.
one of my most vivid memories is being "whacked" in the middle of the forehead with a desert spoon while "daydreaming " at the kitchen table ,this was accompanied by "wake up " at the top of his lungs

 

[Bb70charger500]

Hmmm this is how it is now! my wife is a are school teacher witch teaches the correct way to behave but you can't whack a kid any more you'll get arrested quick it's b.s . my brothers kid is like this they ple and Bergen for good behavior I spank his *** guess who gets results! I saw a kid in Walmart was acting a fool the father got pissed yelled at him to stop kid said no! the father pulled his belt out the kid picked his phone up and said you hit me I call the police on you and you'll go away! the father stood down I proceeded to spank the kid for him and took the dang phone! I told the kid to grow up and try calling the cops on me! then I told the father to grow a set and why does a 5 -7 year old have a smart phone?
I'm 29 and I remember getting spanked when we did bad even in school! that's not to long ago what the hell happened to Americans they all turned into sniveling pussys!

 

[Bb70charger500]

And when I was an *** my mother pulled out the camcorder and said wait till your father gets home oh god help us at that point the worse is when you had to pick the belt you wanted to be spanked with!
Same with my grandmother she made you got pick a switch /branch of the fig tree that was horrible! I was a well behaved kid after a few beating s and I turned out OK I guess I rather be who I am now rather then these other guys that are pussys!

 

[GTXperience]

Don't get me started!

 

[Cornpatch MO]

On the other hand---Yesterday we went to the movies . My knees doesn't allow for me to stand in line for tickets, so I waited over at the end of the concession stand. A "woman" came to get some napkins and three kids came up to her. She said very loudly " what the fu** are you doing? You fu**ers think I am made out of money? Why the fu** did you get a popcorn and a drink for every Fu**in body? I said " don't say that" She said" I don't need you to tell me how to talk to my kids" I said " well someone needs to"
How do you think those kids will turn out, and how will they talk to their children? .............MO

 

[verdelaw]

After living abroad and making some friends from other countries I have come to the sobering conclusion that America doesn't know how to raise it's kids. It's just sad. And it leads to a multitude of our problems as a nation.

 

[moparwacko]

Grew up in a rural setting, so figure that. There was no sparing the wooden spoon or the belt by Dad, it's what was done. " Spare the rod, spoil the child" One I particularly remember is my father holding my arm, kicking my butt down the driveway. And then our company showed up, how embarrassing. I can remember them saying, we'll come back in a bit. It wasnt abusive, just one of those Kodak moments. I don't "spank" either of my grandson's, I politely say we don't do that at Grandpa's house, and then take them home if needed. Their Father (my Son) then asks me if a spanking is needed. They generally don't misbehave again.

 

[Hanover Mopar]

When I was kid I thought I was being picked on by a cop that went to school with my father. I complained to Dad.

Guess how that came out, hint, it wasn't pretty for me.

 

[GetX'd]

The replies from you all come from all over the country. I agree with all of them. But I have to tell you I grew up in the mid west and my father was a strick dude. He whupped the **** out of us - 7 boys - any time we got out of line. If he didn't do it the catholic school folks did.

My point isn't that - it's about California kids. I said I was from the Midwest - every time I go back home from California I get a dose of what it SHOULD be like at least in the U.S.

California kinds are the worst in the country and I've been all over many many times. These wet nose little BMW driving little snots are awful. They - generally - speaking wouldn't know the meaning of respect if it crawled up their *** and bit,their tongues. They're spoiled little shits and and and and ...... there's so much. Ore I could say but my fingers don't want to do the walking.

 

[wahya]

Maybe the home improvement store should sell this naughty bench I keep hearing about. Whatever the punishment is, you have to follow through with the threat once in a while.

 

[moparnation74]

I was spanked twice in my life growing up and remember them vividly. First time was in 4th grade acting up in class and then sent to the principles office. He made a phone call to mom and asked is it "OK" to paddle your boy. I could hear through the phone "Yes." It was like my soul was ripped from my body, lol. Got paddled and never acted up again after that!

Second time, was me and my older brother got into it and I was about 12yrs young. I started it and finished it.......Mom said wait till your Dad comes home.....Man that was a painful 6hrs and the slowest 6hrs....Dad came home and the book went down the pants...no kidding...He came in and said your getting a spanking. He nailed that book hard....Then he was pissed off, big time...book went flying....end result I had to use a doughnut on the toilet for awhile........We knew pops was a was a Vietnam Vet and he was not one to mess with....

Society needs to go back to a simple way of life...one with morals, values and beliefs......

 

[verdelaw]

The replies from you all come from all over the country. I agree with all of them. But I have to tell you I grew up in the mid west and my father was a strick dude. He whupped the **** out of us - 7 boys - any time we got out of line. If he didn't do it the catholic school folks did.

My point isn't that - it's about California kids. I said I was from the Midwest - every time I go back home from California I get a dose of what it SHOULD be like at least in the U.S.

California kinds are the worst in the country and I've been all over many many times. These wet nose little BMW driving little snots are awful. They - generally - speaking wouldn't know the meaning of respect if it crawled up their *** and bit,their tongues. They're spoiled little shits and and and and ...... there's so much. Ore I could say but my fingers don't want to do the walking.

Lol I was about to hit "disagree" on your post because I am from CA... AND I used to own a BMW (not when I was in CA though)! But then i thought better of it because there are plenty of jerks from CA both young and old.

Anyway not to worry, I've learned the error of my ways and I no longer wish to reside in sunny CA.. I'm hoping for cloudy WA now. Lower taxes, crime rates, drought, population density, smog among other things you know. I also don't plan to own another Bimmer (pronounced "Beemer" somehow) as the last one (E46 M3) was too expensive to keep for what it was and more recent ones (E92 M3) don't seem nearly as good! Don't tell anybody on here, but I'm actually in the market for a late model Chevy (pronounced "Chebby").

I was raised with corporal punishment as well, and I think it is a good method when used as a sort of nuclear option. I can count on my fingers how many times I was really spanked good (they made an impression) as a child. My sister in law hits her kids left and right... and it seems to lose effect on them. Raising kids is much more than just how you punish them physically. IMHO you have to be a role model, talk to them about right and wrong, try to set them up for life correctly etc. Someone on here said they actually spoke up to some foul-mouthed parent at a movie theater.. kudos to you!

We have to try harder as a country, but I don't really see it happening. I've heard it's normal for people to think their society/country is getting worse as they grow older.. so I'm not sure if what I see is a thing, or it's just me getting older. We'll see in time I suppose.

 

[Roger63]

Like a lot of you corporal punishment was taken to a whole new level with my parents. My mom's butt whoopins became lame buy the time I was10 but also came with a bonus *** BEATING from the old man when he got home from his miserable job. The only time I was ever vindicated was when I got a paddling at school unjustified. He threatened to apply it to the principal who gave me the punishment.

 

[67440chrg]

The big box hardware stores have the 5 gal paint sticks they will give you if you ask. We had to tape two together when my son was young. My girls usually get moms wooden spoon. We even have one in the pew at church. When my now 25 year old son was about 15 him and a friend burnt a porta potty to the ground the cop that came to the house to get him told us as long as its on the back side with a belt or hand to go for it. We used to sign a consent form for the school just a couple years ago to let them paddle my kids.

 

[Bladecutter]

My Mom made me pick & strip my switches......if it wasn't Mom with switches, then it was Dad w/ the belt....the switches were far more dreaded. I caught the **** until i was 14.
I've been saying since the 80's that a lot of People having Children simply shouldn't. Yep, spare the rod, spoil the child. Now, respect for Elders is non existent. I've never had Kids, i realized a long time ago i was not Parent material. I do not envy People trying to raise well adjusted Children in today's muckery.

 

[khryslerkid]

When I was in trouble, my mom beat my ***. Then when my dad came home, she told him what happened and he beat my *** again!

When my daughter started middle school, she came home with an attitude that "you can't touch me, I'll call social services on you". I grabbed the phone and told her I'll call them for you! That ended that.

One night I grabbed her up for cussing her mom out. She ran out of the house. We knew she was heading to one of her girlfriends house. Called the cops, they went there and brought her home. The trooper sat down with us, she told him what I did. He asked her if she had any broken bones or bruises. She said, "well no, he hit me on my butt". He explained to her that there was no law stating that your dad couldn't discipline you in that way and when I leave, I hope he gives you another good one for running away! That helped for awhile.

As a parent, you realize after a certain age, and each child is different, that a spanking has no effect anymore. Then it's time to start taking away privileges. If I'd take away that girls phone privileges, you thought she was going to die. Not letting her visit her friends, same result.

My son only needed a certain look from me and all was good. Each kid is different but discipline is a necessary action to guide them in the right direction...