What would you Do/Say?

[moparnation74]

My wife has full access to anything and everything we BOTH own, Together!...I do not care who paid for what and how, thats BS! Home, Bank accounts, investments, cars, Yadda yada...She knows her limits and boundries and I know those same limits and boundries...All stemmed from communication and respect....Divisiveness never works well for a relationship..

 

[Brandy]

I would print up a sheet of comparable RR's that are for sale. Once she agrees that if she breaks it, she buys it, she wont want to drive it.

 

[BeeKool]

I would print up a sheet of comparable RR's that are for sale. Once she agrees that if she breaks it, she buys it, she wont want to drive it.

Good idea. I'm lucky, mine likes driving trucks not cars.

While we all may have similar problems, we do not all have similar relationships.
What works for one couple may be bad for the next.
So advice is best taken with a grain of salt.
In my relationship there is a what's mine, what's hers and what's ours. (most things are what's ours, EXCEPT the farm) I'm not perfect, she's not perfect, and neither is our relationship. We understand this though, and we do well together.
I realize that she is willing to put up with me and my numerous flaws and likewise.

 

[Z-Man]

Let her take it on short jont's. See how she doe's. You should try to keep her happy. Mine dropped me like a hot potato in 2015. I had to buy half of my 71 GTX back from her and also my 2005 Wide Glide. Keep her happy if you love her or else be ready.

 

[tnfastback]

This whole conversation confirms just once again that if it has Tires or ******* it is going to give you problems every now and then.

 

[BeeKool]

This whole conversation confirms just once again that if it has Tires or ******* it is going to give you problems every now and then.

And cost money $

 

[Bb70charger500]

I learned early on make the car completely un drivable no power steering heavy clutch no ac got to wiggle the do hicky to get it to start . Let her drive it supervised of course she will never want to drive it again then you can fix everything . I make all my cars standards now she tried driving one once I had the z bar tied up she couldn't bearly get the thing to move she refuses to drive anything stick that is not hyd clutch now !
Your learn with time I'm a tad younger then you but have been with mine for 11-12 years now .
Don't let the b.s. get to you just remember your 100% able to get a new wife there lots of them out there . If you don't need to then great you got a decent one on your first try . My ol lady drives me insane but honestly I couldn't replace her very easily not many girls know how to rebuild a 4 speed !

 

[Glenwood]

The first question my wife had when I bought the 64 was if she can drive it... I said, well it has push buttons to operate it. That was enough to deter her for the time being.

In all honesty, if she wanted to take it for a spin, I could never say no to her as we are partners. It would kill me though as she can be a bit careless at times, but she knows the work I've put into it and probably wouldn't ask at this point. It is still only a material possession and not worth ruining a relationship over. If she was actually into muscle cars, we'd find one for her.

 

[eldubb440]

a wise man in another thread typed "women are nuts, it's up to us to figure out how to counter their bullshit"

she digs cars, that is a win.......that wise man thinks she needs her own car

 

[HEMI-ITIS]

If it has a gash and bleeds,,,,,,it's a problem.When it stops bleedin,itsa bigger problem,,,,,,,,LMOL.

No,,JK,,,,,

For some reason the lack of power brakes & steering might be an issue,but it's the visability that keeps 'em outta the drivers seat.

 

[Brandy]

My wife has always wanted a 65 Mustang. I have been able to resist her so far.

 

[Bladecutter]

Well, i think that Women do not understand cars. To them, cars are just more accessories to their vanity. They are not intimate with the cars and the neccessary nurturing there of. Therefore they dont give a rusty **** about the dents their fat asses put in the sheet,,,and when it comes to shopping, they will always leave the car in harm's way.
Thats my story & im stickin to it.
"its juust a caar!!" "No! It isn't!, it's MY car!"

 

[polywideblock]

what would I do/ say ... NO simple
if she had her own well and good drive that but NO just NO

 

[eagleone1983]

Super-bee_ski,
I get it and believe me I don't air all my dirty laundry on social media. This was sort of car related and like BeeKool mentioned we don't always have others we can talk to. Some of you guys on here have helped me before see things from another angle. I don't have a Dad to talk to and (sorry to make you all sound old) most of you are old enough to be my Dad. You have the experience not only in cars but in life. If I thought I could talk to my friends about this I would but unfortunately I don't have many close friends, being former active duty and moving around a lot it's hard to forge long lasting relationships. Now most my friends are also her friends so I can't exactly talk to them about it.

 

[Glenwood]

I don't think there's really anything wrong with sharing some stuff on this site particularly, as this site has a bit of a family feel to it. Just have to be careful not to post something that your wife, family or friends could read and be offended by.

 

[eagleone1983]

I would print up a sheet of comparable RR's that are for sale. Once she agrees that if she breaks it, she buys it, she wont want to drive it.

That wouldn't work, my money is her money. We don't have separate account nor do we argue about money, we both are pretty well off. Don't worry guys this isn't a I think I'm getting divorced thread, simply a question about how you guys deal with your wife/car relationship. My wife loves, at least I think she does, doing thing with the car just not working on it. I wouldn't really want her too anyway cause I'm very particular and detail oriented and it drives her nuts. Blame the fact that I was an aircraft technician in the Air Force for that one.

I've decided that I'm not going to say anything to her if she asks to take it out. What I will do though is show her where the cleaning supplies are and how to not scratch the paint when washing.

 

[Brandy]

My wife is not at all interested in driving it. She has said she will ride in it when done though. My buddy down the road told her that I was building a " work of art" not just a car. I knew I liked that guy...lol.

 

[Mr. Belvedere II]

Super-bee_ski,
I get it and believe me I don't air all my dirty laundry on social media. This was sort of car related and like BeeKool mentioned we don't always have others we can talk to. Some of you guys on here have helped me before see things from another angle. I don't have a Dad to talk to and (sorry to make you all sound old) most of you are old enough to be my Dad. You have the experience not only in cars but in life. If I thought I could talk to my friends about this I would but unfortunately I don't have many close friends, being former active duty and moving around a lot it's hard to forge long lasting relationships. Now most my friends are also her friends so I can't exactly talk to them about it.

Honestly I think this is the perfect place to inquire about such things. There is a level of anonymity that is similar to the way it's easier to tell a stranger on a train your problems for they have no connection to those you are discussing. You needed objective insight about your car and the situation. Here is the place that guys of all backgrounds share something in common, the love of car craft, and the expiriences and emotions that are associated with it. It's emotional for real! I feel shitty when my car runs shitty. I have anxiety when I'm driving if I see something is going wrong under the hood or maybe I'll stall in the middle of traffic cuz the carb is loading up! These really aren't "just cars". These are our equivalents to a woman's uhhhh well you know what, there is no equivalent. I tell people my car is baby and that is exactly what it is. How many women are just jumping at the chance to hand thier baby off to someone? You get my point anyway. Dude you got a whole lot of responses on this one because it's a great question, and people here obviously care about this and you and took the time to tell you thier expiriences. Sharing is caring, and that's what we do here.

 

[Mike67]

I cant speak for everyone here but reading all the comments, even my own, made me start to think a little...I found some irony throughout the process...
Going back to jr high I dreamed of having a muscle car, why? because of the thrill of speed, power and American pride...I entered high school and developed a slightly different objective...I needed a cool car to help get the hot chicks...which lasted until I got married @ 32...
Then the transition back to my hr high thinking...to go fast, make noise & burn rubber...Already got the hot chick, she took the bait and I reeled her in...luckily she loves hotrods too!
And like stated I built her hers 1st, really because I wanted to do something special for her ( doesn't change the fact she crazy)...I will be working on mine & she wont want anything to do with it other than a ride.
And Im sure Ill put mine in hold again and build something for my girls as they get to a responsible driving age ( even though the are mirror images of the mom).
So we spend most of our younger years trying to impress the ladies with our cool cars, only to keep them from them as we got older...kinda funny how we work...

 

[eagleone1983]

I don't know my high school car was an '86 Fiero and then all I had for a while was an '86 Suzuki Intruder motorcycle. Didn't get many chicks due to vehicles, luckily I'm not horribly ugly. LOL