In the end it was interference from the wheels I bought. I borked the offset and there was enough contact all around to make a problem.
Go ahead and flame me but with a few shallow spacers things are fine, my wheels look really awesome and no one will know. The back studs had plenty of thread but I will need to replace the front studs with something a little longer.
I suppose if I had someone around who could point out the dumb sh*t I do in person that would help, but if my biggest problem is that I outlived my friends I'm going to live with that. No pun intended.
Thanks for the time spent replying.