I know all sides of that story about the step parents
& tribulations all to well...
I know all too well about the "sperm donor syndrome too"
I won't go too far into my tale...
I've shared it before here too...
You're a good man, I'm sure it took some real restraint
to not pound the biological douchebag dad into the ground...
You did the right thing,
even if I may have done something different...
I'd like to think I'd have not wanted to kick his *** up &
down the street in-front of "your son", his biological child
&
I understand saying something like
"if he touches you, I'll kick his *** too",
he shouldn't have said it to the kid at all
IF it was warranted & you are abusive than maybe...
but;
IMO it doesn't sound to me like that's your type at all,
not for something that doesn't warrant some sort of punishments...
I would talk to the guy in private & tell him what's up & how it is,
you don't like what he said & the drinking **** is completely wrong
especially when dealing with a child in a car, while his *** being drunk,
"there's no excuse at all for that ****"
Good luck I hope it works out for the best...
Oh yeah I knew all to well my stepfather was
looking out for my best interests, cared for my mom {RIP} too
it took a while but it sunk in, but he was the one that raised me...
Now my real dad is a pretty good father, it only too 30 or so years...
I knew it long before too...
Your stepson hopefully isn't corrupted by the "sperm donor"
mentality...
Not all real biological fathers are like that too,
even after a bad or contentious divorce...
I'm sure some mothers are real pieces of work too...
There's usually a good reason why they got divorced in the 1st place
on both sides...
Keep fighting the good fight...