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A little rant...

drobertson

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Ok... sorry guys. I just need to get this out. My family is moving from a town called Worland (in Wyoming) to a town nearby named Burlington. Well, I'm 18, and technically I don't need to help. But I am helping because I feel it's my responsibility, and my 16 year old brother is always running off to see his girlfriend to avoid packing. Long story short, my Mom and I packed the entire house and moved everything without my dad lifting a finger ("his back hurts") and my little brother is always going to visit his girlfriend (his lazy *** won't help worth ****)

I walk into the old house after loading my pickup, and I hear my Dad having a conversation with people interested in buying our home. (Just before I walked in, I was packing the last of my tools to take to burlington from the garage...) anyways I walked in, and overheard my Dad apologizing to the guests for the messy garage, because "My son David has aspergers and can't help but work on his shitty old car". Well gee, Dad, thanks! At least I've been employed the past 3 years (he hasn't). Yes it's true that I have aspergers, but he doesn't have to be a dick about it and tell everyone he sees. Especially when our hometown only has 5,000 people and everybody knows each other. He really does tell almost everybody. It has gotten so bad that people come and ask me about it. I feel like a piece of ****, and I get the temptation to swallow a bullet.

I'm working my *** off helping him, and all he does is insult me. Just a week before the planned move, I applied for a job in Lovell, WY, and I got the job. The first thing my dad does is tells me it's not worth traveling 2 hrs each day, etc. I'm just fed up with it. He knows I struggle mentally, but he makes it look like I'm retarded. And a 1973 Charger isn't a shitty car compared to his 1999 Chevy Tracker he drives. Rant over.
 
I've read many of your posts here on FBBO. You seem to me like a well thought out young man that's supportive to your family. I know how much your car means to you from a previous post. Asbergers or not you have a right to some privacy about your status. Yes - parents can seem insensitive at times. That wasn't the most supportive thing your father said about your condition. I remember all your frustration with your fathers back condition and challenges in getting disability insurance. Has that been resolved?

I also remember so many of us encouraging you to join the military to start a life of your own. After all you are 18 and have the right to privacy and the opportunity to shape your own life.
 
Sorry to hear this. I don't know why some people are so negative. Dads that do this really are doing their kids an injustice. And while I don't know what Aspbergers is, I too, would resent having my medical condition blurted out to everybody. Especially strangers. They were probably uncomfortable with being told what should have been confidential info. Hang in there, kid! Go for your new job. 2 hours is an overly long commute. But you can always try it for a while to see if it is something you would want to stay with. And gotta love the 3rd gen Chargers. I have had a 71 and a 74 "back in the day", and wish I still had them now......
 
Hear you Dave, step back and take a breath for a sec. Most of us here have had struggles with our parents in some way or another.
I think your will to help your family speaks volumes about your character. Don't pay any attention to what you think people might think about it. I'm sure your actions define you and not a diagnoses.
Don't worry about things you can't control and stand tall, move forward and don't look back or live with regret.
Keep your head up bro!
 
People with Aspergers are some of the most intelligent people I have ran into......Like Mike said just ignore the nonsense and continue as you are....
 
Thanks for all the kind words, guys. It really means a lot to me. I just need to let myself cool down, and that's okay. I have talked to him about it and he said he'll try to not invade on my privacy so much. Gosh I love this forum. you guys rock.
 
Nothing more to add except good luck and God bless.
 
I also remember so many of us encouraging you to join the military to start a life of your own.

Well I didn't join the military, but I got a job over in Lovell. I'm gonna be starting soon. Hopefully that will be enough to get me by for a while.
 
My step dad has aspergers. He also holds nine patents in radar technology. Don't worry about it man.
 
You are proving that you are a good son and a good man, don't ever lose that no matter what is said or what others actions are. Doing right is never wrong.
 
Seems like your a good young man, your parents get better as you age...
Take it in stride, good luck with the new job...

Happy Moparing
 
Sounds like he's a little jealous, you are on the right path and you are Mopar family!
 
David, I would have no hesitation taking you on as an employee after what I have seen you do in the short time you have been with us on FBBO. Try not to let your father's negativity get on top of you. Good luck with the new job. :thumbsup:
 
David, I too have read a lot of your posts. For a young man, you are miles ahead of where most of us were at your age. Good Luck with the new job and keep doing the good things you are doing!
 
Thanks for all the kind words, guys! It really means a lot to me. He will change his mind for sure when he sees the car in FC7 paint in the near future!
 
Hang in there. Doing the right thing in tough situations might not be easy but at least you can look at yourself in the mirror each morning.

You're your own man and not many 18 y/o's these days (God I sound old, only 46 but feel 28) can stand on their own 2 feet. You're going places they never will.

As I don't know your family background it sounds like your Dad is jealous not being able to provide for your family.

As far as Asperger's who cases. We all have something no one is perfect except the man upstairs. You're Dad should keep his mouth shut as that's none of anyone's business outside of the family.

These forums are a great way to connect with those that share the same hobbies. I have to many to count LOL!
 
David,

I admire what you did for your parents. I wish my kids would be like that when they grow up. Keep in mind that while your father might do crap like that, I'm sure your mother appreciates what you do for your family. Sometimes you just have to focus on the better stuff and don't let people who treat you like garbage in your family get to you.

Also, best of luck in your new venture with the job!
 
I feel like a piece of ****, and I get the temptation to swallow a bullet.

Dave, as a father who lost a son to suicide, please do not think in the terms mentioned above. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Where there is life, there is hope. Stay alive and do what you think is right and do not worry about what others do or say. Do what you need to do for you to remain strong for yourself and your family. I am sure it is hard for your Dad to see you working when he is not, so take his harsh words with a grain of salt. As others have said, you seem to be light years ahead of most 18 year-olds. If you get down again or need support, come here and you will get plenty. I am pretty new, so if you have time, I would love to see a pic of your car!

Take care Dave. Keep your head up and put one foot in front of the other! As they said back in the day "keep on truckin'"!
 
Just do the best you can, and follow your gut....you'll be fine. :thumbsup:
 
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